Feeling like I can’t do anything right

[Yellowpebble]

I don’t honestly know if I’m being over sensitive or not, I’m feeling criticised all the time and feeling like my husband isn’t happy with me and wants to divorce me.

He’s constantly complaining about the state of the house, says things like “we’ll have to clean up”. We each use a separate shower and he says ‘your shower is really dirty.’

He hates my cats and constantly says they smell. Just really small things but I feel criticised.

Do you want to stay with him?

Just tell him he’s being a bit critical. When he complains about the house can you say well let’s both clean it/ sort it out. If you both try to sort it together it might feel like he’s not against you but that your a team. Divorce over state of a house sounds a bit extreme unless there are other things going on. Just a thought are you/ him working from home as this can change perception of housework if your living in it all day you see it all the time.

Is he doing any cleaning , or is trying to get you to do it all ?

How long have you been feeling like this?.

It would be helpful if you offered more context. What is the division of labour like? Do you have kids, do you both work? Do you both share the load?

@PriestessofPing

It would be helpful if you offered more context. What is the division of labour like? Do you have kids, do you both work? Do you both share the load?

This.

And, being honest, do your cats smell? Is your shower v dirty?

Does he have a point..?