How to end it? Can't do it in person.

[opensun]

Need to end things with the guy I'm seeing. It's only been 3-4 months and he's started buying his son the same clothes my son wears, wants to put his son in the same club as mine, he's listening to the podcasts I listen to etc. I told him once that I was feeling really anxious and needed to be on my own and he turned up on my doorstep with flowers. He's just too much and I need to end things. Problrn is, I'm on day 2 of covid and want to get it over with. I've almost entirely lost my voice and am short of breath, but can't do it in person. I can't text as it just isn't the done thing. How do I do this?

@opensun how are you feeling with Covid? I'm guessing you haven't even got the energy to think about relationships right now

There is absolutely nothing wrong with a text. If I were him, I'd rather receive such a message by text than in an awkward phone call or face to face on a date I'd been looking forward to.

And anyway, he's trampled over your boundaries and ignored your feelings when you stated them, so you shouldn't be worrying too much about his. A text also has the benefit that you can think carefully about the wording and be clear, straightforward and still polite (if you so wish), and ensure no room for misunderstanding.... and if he ignores you again and turns up, you can also re-send it and you'll have a record if he gets weird about it.

Just text him. You can be kind and polite but you don't really owe him any great speeches or explanations.

It's only been a few months - he's a boyfriend, not a partner. On that note why has he even met your son let alone knowing what he wears and what clubs he goes to?!?!! You really need to slow down and keep dating separate from your children until you're much further along and have had the time and opportunity to identiofy any red flags.

Generally it's easy for people to hide their issues and wear a mask for 3 months then it becomes more difficult and the mask starts to slip.

Text is okay

It's only been a few months, plus he's being a right weirdo - text is absolutely fine. Expect bullshit as well and more random flowers and pleading and be prepared to change your number/not engage with him at all

@Easterbunnyiswindowshopping

I ended my marriage by text. No regrets. Send 1 message then block and delete. Bag up his stuff. Tell him a time to collect from your step.

Obviously I don't know the reasons, but that sounds harsh. You may not have any regrets but I wouldn't want this done to me!

He cared not a jot. He was gone when I got home. He had fleeced our family for a year. He had no morals. And deserved no respectful dumping.