What would you think hes saying here?

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Just need opinions really if I'm taking this the wrong way.

Received text from DP, I'd messaged to say morning, had a nice relaxing time last night with him. He started his reply with good morning etc and then ended with this:
And yes you touching me and blow job was great. more of that would complete me having you as my life.

For context we don't live together but see each other every day usually. I thought we had a great sex life. we're not at it like rabbits, as life, work, dc, not living together, but its often and always great.

But that text has left me feeling a bit flat and a little confused.
Is he just clumsy with the words and just telling me he had a good time last night, or Is he saying that he wants more sex in order for me to complete the relationship? make it perfect? I thought it was pretty compete already.

To add, we've been together 5 years, so not a new relationship.

I would ask him what he means by it.
I would be thinking he is saying he likes being with you , but you wanking him and giving more blow jobs would make him like you more. You'd then become more of a keeper.
I'd be pissed off by that remark.

I would think he was making a cheeky reference to how much he enjoys you giving him a bj. You are looking for more commitment so are reading more into it?. If you want more then tell him.

He wants you to do all the sexual heavy lifting so he doesn't have to...

He's saying he wants more blow jobs.

I think if you're asking us rather than him what he means, you have other problems in your relationship.

What stops you asking him?

having you as my life

This makes no sense whatsoever.

And what do you get OP?

As my life? Did he mean in my life, or as my wife?

Either way, my response would be fuck off.

Is it a typo on his part or your part.. I.e. was it meant to say wife?

If you’re seeing him tonight, I would as him what he meant. Those sorts of text are easy to get wrong and I don’t think any of us will be able to decode it for you.

Are you happy with how things are? Would you prefer to be living together?

He wants more blow jobs !

You’ve been with him 5 years. Why are you asking us? I despair.

That would give me the Ick.

It sounds to me as if he is laying down some sexual conditionals.

Ick.

I'm asking because I am prone to over thinking and it justread a bit odd to me.

No typos, thats what he wrote - having you as my life.

We are engaged. I did reply and said yes it was a good night, but wasn't aware I wasn't already completing his life. He said I do complete his life, thats not what he meant and that I know what doing stuff means to him.

So I am just checking if I am massively over thinking this and he is just saying it was great, more of that please.

But the part about having you as my life felt like he was saying that more of that would guarantee my life with him. Feels like an audition. struggling to word correctly what I mean.

@Sunnyday321 probably puts it how it made me feel.
I would be thinking he is saying he likes being with you , but you wanking him and giving more blow jobs would make him like you more. You'd then become more of a keeper

How long engaged? Have you set a date?

It sounds to me as if he is laying down some sexual conditionals.

yes it feels like this.

no date set, engaged a year, but covid has delayed making plans to a degree to be fair.

Is it along the lines of "keep giving blowies like that, love, and I may have to wife you up" ?

I think it's a clumsy complement on your blow job skills.
A lot can get lost in text speak. There's no facial expressions or tone of voice or Anything. So if it's out of character I wouldn't read too much into it

But what did you ask him before he sent you that?...as it starts off as if he's just answering you.

He sounds a right lazy arse! What's in that for you?

Yeah, I think you have the right idea. I he wants a lot more sex and you worshipping his cock basically - that makes him feel like you're definitely the one he wants

I’m not sure that I’d want the reason I’d complete someone’s life to be conditional on the frequency of fellatio sessions.

@PurpleDaisies

yes I'd prefer to be living together. I am not sure he is. We could live together as he could easily move in with me. I have DC and I think he is unsure how that will all work, which I don't blame him, so at the moment we live seperate. But he also says he can't wait to marry me, which to me doesn't exactly tie in with his reluctance to move in together.

I'm likely massively over thinking this.

He can be clumsy with words. he also though writes some really lovely messages. So I do sometimes think he uses his clumsiness in getting across what he wants to say as an excuse to back track when he thinks he has offended me.

I don't want me 'completing his life' to be based on how many blow jobs he gets a week though. Thats just feels like i'm under pressure to perform.

perhaps I should have replied along the lines of him doing more housework and the grocery shopping would complete my life, lol