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Propose abroad or locally

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Rocktheboat56 · 09/03/2022 19:51

I think this is the year to propose to my partner. I planned to do it abroad but debating whether this is important or not. I guess either way it will be magical. Just wondered what others think? I've discussed it with him and he says he's not overly concerned about where it is. I just think there are some beautiful destinations out there and it may make it more rememorable.

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Readytopop2022x · 09/03/2022 19:57

@Rocktheboat56

I think this is the year to propose to my partner. I planned to do it abroad but debating whether this is important or not. I guess either way it will be magical. Just wondered what others think? I've discussed it with him and he says he's not overly concerned about where it is. I just think there are some beautiful destinations out there and it may make it more rememorable.
It really doesn't matter OP. You could propose behind a bin shelter and your OH will be over the moon! As long as it's thoughtful and intimate you really can't go wrong! Good luck!
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Rocktheboat56 · 09/03/2022 20:41

That was funny to read but yes excellent point. Cheers

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Featuredcreature · 09/03/2022 20:42

Jesus i read this as prolapse Grin erm neither thanks. I'd do it abroad, good luck!

NotaCoolMum · 09/03/2022 20:59

I wouldn’t care where my DP proposed!! I’d just be over the moon and I’m sure yours will be too!! Good luck! X

TristesseDurera · 09/03/2022 21:45

Have a conversation. There is no need to make a production number out of it.

Grimsknee · 09/03/2022 21:50

I proposed to my husband while we were watching Eastenders and it was actually magical. It was romantic because it was in the middle of an everyday activity (watching tv together) that we still do, and every time we do it we think about it. The key to romance isn't where you are, it's how you feel and you can feel romantic going to the shops to buy a toaster.

venusandmars · 09/03/2022 21:57

I know several people who have found proposing abroad to be incredibly stressful. All of the holiday you're 100% distracted trying to find the right spot, the perfect place, hoping there are no tourists. Find something local and familiar where you have more control (although even then my friend split his trousers on a fence Grin )

venusandmars · 09/03/2022 22:01

I proposed to dh twice. Once abroad (although I can't remember that as clearly as he did) in the Ardeche, France, swimming in a river. The second time on an amazing frosty walk in Fort William.

The first was was 'will you?' the second was more practical 'right HOW are we going to do this?'. ime the second was more romantic

duvetdayforeveryone · 09/03/2022 22:09

More important to make it personal rather than the location.

TheDoveFromAboveCooCoo · 09/03/2022 22:12

My DH proposed abroad and it was the most romantic amazing thing I have ever known.

Not that home proposals aren't romantic but this was just perfect for us.

He took us on a surprise trip to New York. I didn't know we were going anywhere until the day before, he had organised childcare, cat sitters, my time off with work, everything.

I didn't know where we were going until we checked in at the airport (totally knew it was going to be a proposal lol)

Then he gave me $200 to find something nice to wear for a posh dinner. We got in a cab to go out and I felt the ring box in his pocket! Omg I was so excited!!

We had an amazing dinner in a fancy restaurant with a pianist serenading us with Billy Joel songs.

Then he took me to the top of the rockafella centre and got down on one knee.

Could cry now just remembering how I felt that night.

I think what I'm trying to say is the big proposal isnt necessarily the be all and end all. God I would have said yes if he had done it at McDonald's! But the fact he went to so much effort really did make me heart absolutely swell.

TristesseDurera · 10/03/2022 08:25

You already shared a home, children and pets but you were amazed that he was willing to commit to you?

CornishGem1975 · 10/03/2022 08:31

My DH proposed in the UK at one of our fav places. I like that it's a special place that we can go back to relatively easily (it's still a few hours away)

AlisonDonut · 10/03/2022 08:33

@TristesseDurera

You already shared a home, children and pets but you were amazed that he was willing to commit to you?
But it was so utterly romantic, she could FEEL the box!!!
Woollystockings · 10/03/2022 08:37

I don’t understand why you need to plan it, and the idea that you have discussed it beforehand is weird, to me. All a year in advance? If you’ve both discussed the proposal, surely that means you are already engaged now - you’ve agreed to get married. So, you’re engaged now and you should be planning the wedding, not planning the proposal.

TheDoveFromAboveCooCoo · 10/03/2022 08:42

@AlisonDonut @TristesseDurera

It was the way he did it that so was romantic.

And I can't imagine being such an arse that I would happily pour scorn all over someone's happy story at this time in a morning.

Bitchiness is really not an attractive quality.

Mylittlepixie · 10/03/2022 08:51

[quote TheDoveFromAboveCooCoo]**@AlisonDonut* @TristesseDurera*

It was the way he did it that so was romantic.

And I can't imagine being such an arse that I would happily pour scorn all over someone's happy story at this time in a morning.

Bitchiness is really not an attractive quality. [/quote]
Just ignore them. Jealousy is a bitch.

HaggisBurger · 10/03/2022 08:52

[quote TheDoveFromAboveCooCoo]**@AlisonDonut* @TristesseDurera*

It was the way he did it that so was romantic.

And I can't imagine being such an arse that I would happily pour scorn all over someone's happy story at this time in a morning.

Bitchiness is really not an attractive quality. [/quote]
Exactly! Dear goodness - can we not appreciate all the effort that went into that! @TheDoveFromAboveCooCoo I loved your story!

TristesseDurera · 10/03/2022 08:55

[quote TheDoveFromAboveCooCoo]**@AlisonDonut* @TristesseDurera*

It was the way he did it that so was romantic.

And I can't imagine being such an arse that I would happily pour scorn all over someone's happy story at this time in a morning.

Bitchiness is really not an attractive quality. [/quote]
Nope, not jealousy. Just don't get the concept of giant perfornance proposals, particularly when you've already been in a long term relationship and committed to each other in so many ways already.

Just seems like it's all about spending vast sums of money and buying into a generic idea of 'romance'. Each to their own.

TristesseDurera · 10/03/2022 08:57

@Woollystockings

I don’t understand why you need to plan it, and the idea that you have discussed it beforehand is weird, to me. All a year in advance? If you’ve both discussed the proposal, surely that means you are already engaged now - you’ve agreed to get married. So, you’re engaged now and you should be planning the wedding, not planning the proposal.
Yes, it doesn't make any sense, does it?
HaggisBurger · 10/03/2022 08:57

@Rocktheboat56 there’s always Birmingham New Street station 😉

twitter.com/crimebirmingham/status/1501597237067014151?s=21

Personally I think it’s about doing something personal to your DP and that shows effort and thoughtfulness. Whether it’s home or abroad it doesn’t matter.

If you’d like the element of surprise then home may be easier. I remember in my late 20s early 30s every time anyone in a LTR went on a mini break everyone expected a ring on their return 😉

RedRec · 10/03/2022 09:04

@TristesseDurera

You already shared a home, children and pets but you were amazed that he was willing to commit to you?
Are you this much of a bitch in real life?
CornishGem1975 · 10/03/2022 09:08

Some people really are great big whacking mood hoovers.

Zazdar · 10/03/2022 09:26

My husband proposed abroad. He had put some effort into choosing the location and getting me there without giving the game away. It was a very pleasant surprise.

Note for the mood hoovers; the surprise was how he proposed, not that he proposed at all.

mindutopia · 10/03/2022 09:59

I'm not personally one for big grand proposals (or surprises really - we decided we were getting engaged and bought the ring together). But dh proposed to me on a walk somewhat near where we lived at the time (packed champagne and a really nice picnic lunch). And then had planned a surprise weekend away for after. I think that was the perfect mix of something fun planned, but not over the top and high pressured. I personally wouldn't want a big trip somewhere and to be thinking a proposal might come but not knowing when.

layladomino · 10/03/2022 12:07

Think about what it is you want from your proposal - if it's a romantic, personal occasion that you will both recollect for years to come, then surely more personal is better. I love the fact that sometimes DH and I find ourselves back where he proposed, 20 minutes from where we live. It was somewhere that was already kind of 'our place' and that made it more special.

If it's the element of surprise - then avoid on holiday / big night out proposals as he'll be semi-expecting it.

You don't need an amazing destination to make it memorable - deciding to get married ought to be amazing enough!

Although it seems you've already decided to get married so this is actually a bit of an event you're staging that you'll both enjoy, which is fair enough. (Please avoid a performance proposal though - I'm sure you will. So cringe!!)