Relationship breaking down - preparing to be a single mum

[Mumandscrewed]

I’ve name changed for obvious reasons.

I’m 6 months pp and have been told by DP that he’s no longer happy, we’re missing spark etc and although he won’t say it, our relationship is over. Apparently there is no one else.

I still have 5 months of maternity leave left, with only 2 more months of pay. My little one is 6 months old, we have a dog and own a house together - I’m on the mortgage but the bulk of the deposit came from him and I’d be hesitant of taking any of the money that has come from him.

Realistically the house is going to have to go, we can’t live together and not be in a relationship. We aren’t married, but stupidly my little one has his surname and I don’t yet have a passport for them. They are breastfed and generally doesn’t take a bottle.

Has anyone got any practical advice for how I can best prepare to be a single parent? Is there anything I need to look at financially or think about from a custody POV?

I can’t believe I’m in this position :(

Mumandscrewed
Right now it’s a small baby
Trust me when they get older you might want to have 50:50

It’s all very overwhelming and scary
Try to think and plan in baby steps
Right now focus is money , split and your self care

A few years down the line this will be a horrible memory
You can and will move on
You can’t imagine that right now I know

@Thisisworsethananticpated thank you, I really needed to hear that. It’s kind of all become rather final now.

And definitely don’t mind 50/50 down the line, it’s just while she’s so young that I just think it’s going to cause problems.

You can go into conversations and make that clear
Have you got a Soliciter yet
Having them advise and hold
Communications can take areas off
And it’s way cheaper and simpler when not married

I know it’s so so horrible right now
But you will come out the other side