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Arranged a date, then blocked

33 replies

BearFacedCheekGrylls · 05/03/2022 10:12

I’m new to dating after divorce and then my first relationship failing. Had been chatting to someone every day, arranged to meet today and have woken up to find they have blocked me on WhatsApp and the app.

I don’t think I’ll ever understand dating behaviour!

OP posts:

Shunter350 · 07/03/2022 12:59

@AWavyLine

I think a proportion of OLDers are just doing it as a fantasy- they’re married perhaps but like the idea they could still go out on dates etc if they wanted. So they chat to you online until a date is agreed, then they move on, because all they wanted out of it was the knowledge that they could have had a date if they had wanted one. A sad way to spend time, really.

As a bloke I would suggest that some women are guilty of this too..

D0lphine · 07/03/2022 13:41

@AWavyLine expressed this in gender neutral language using "they" throughout.

allthestaars · 11/11/2023 05:12

i got blocked too

SamW98 · 11/11/2023 07:03

I actually prefer when men put ‘non vanilla’ in their profile. At least they’re telling us upfront.

Ive had a first message asking to be my slave and that he will lick my boots, another who told me he will do my cleaning and I wants to be ordered around by a dominant woman and another who just asked if I’m into BDSM and being submissive.

TicTacNicNak · 11/11/2023 07:15

This thread is from March last year...

EBearhug · 11/11/2023 11:00

another who told me he will do my cleaning and I wants to be ordered around by a dominant woman

I have considered this instead of getting a cleaner... but I can't be arsed with the supervision. I want a competent cleaner who just does it.

OliveToboogie · 11/11/2023 17:21

It's a numbers game. He Got a better offer and moved on. Or he is married or has a gf and messages ppl for a laugh. You are worth more than these creeps xx

CandyLeBonBon · 11/11/2023 17:26

BearFacedCheekGrylls · 05/03/2022 11:05

Thanks. All true and good advice.

I just don’t understand why would you chat so much to someone you had no intention of meeting. What do they get out of it? I was the one who pushed to meet today, because we had been talking a week and a half and it seemed pointless if there wasn’t a spark.

He did leave me a very whispery voice message at one point so perhaps he is with someone already.

Maybe he got cold feet? (Excuse the pun!)

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