How soon after birth did you do 'it'

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DD is 8weeks old and frankly i'm stil in shock, i had no idea how hard it would be i'm shattered and finding it hrd to find time to wash my hair let alone have sex. dh is great but has asked when? i have no idea, i'm a bit scared tbh.

about 6 months - 8 weeks is to soon imo.

After both of mine, I thought I was pregnant at the six week check.... [bluch]

about a year

both times

even!!

oh ROFL .. there was me thinking [bluch] was exactly the right emoticon for thinking yourself pg at 6 week check

YEARS - honestly almost 3 YEARS. But I don't think that's normal

wow that's quite a range

Still lay there dozing gently and DD is 4

About 12 weeks with DS1, bit longer with DS2.

Mainly psychological, but also because I didn't exactly feel very bloody sexual.

I think it took about a year to really start enjoying it again, tbh.

i can't really remember, but it was at least a couple of months each time.

6 weeks

Several months in my case iirc, and much, much longer after ds.

If you did 'it' at 6-8 weeks were you not still sore and/or bleeding? Let alone totally knackered and obssessed with your baby?

Blimey -we were quite qick off the mark, but I didn't bleed for very long. I did read about someone who had sex a day or so after birth, and somehow air got into her as hse hadn't healed, travelled up to her heart and killed her. Aparently.

Before the 6 week check - had had c section so carefully, but didn't have other stitches to worry about at least.

Friiend had a very calm but quick home birth with her second and had had sex within the first week!

6 weeks for DS and 8 weeks for DD.. felt fine both time physically and mentally .. one c.s and one v.b with a couple of stitches.. i was more concerned about getting contraception sorteed before we resumed

remember, sex not just about penetration, but lots of other things too....

a lot depends on the delivery, stitches, how you feel mentally too..

a glass of wine is often a help !

Was no bleeding by time we did it and my c section scare was nicely healing and not painful.

my lochia stopped both times after 2 -3 weeks or so and my babies were good sleepers from early on

I had a lot of stitches with DS1 and even more with DS2 (who was v big), both were ventouse and I felt very scared for a while afterwards, not in the least sexy.

I second Lulumamas idea about wine, works wonders!

6 weeks with DS - madness in retrospect
much longer with DD - she's now 9mths and I reckon we've done 'it' twice now

couple of weeks

2 months, but it was kinda like shagging a cheese grater.

Sorry tmi??

3 weeks, much too early but i wanted to kind of reassure dh that we would have sex again. Left it for a few more weeks. Again at 8 weeks or something like that. It wasn't exactly frequent for a good while. (still?)

I think if I were there with you both I would ask your dh when your baby will get a bit less hard work. He might say 'I don't know, I've never done this before.' I might reply 'Exactly'.

As a starting point, how about a weekly luxurious bath for you, taking at least 1 hour, while he cares for the baby (preferably out of the house). I'm not suggesting he doesn't do plenty, but something relaxing and sensual that is purely for you? HTH.