I started a thread a few days ago saying that I was suicidal and pregnant. People encouraged me to go to A&E straight away (instead of waiting until the next morning) because I was afraid of hurting my baby. Once I told my mum I was in hospital and what I went there for she suggested that either I move in with her or she'll move in with me. There was no other way around it.
I already have a 9 month old and I'm heavily pregnant with my second. My mum has severe mental health issues that she's on medication for and has been given a 'not fit for work' note (or whatever it's called). So she spends everyday indoors. I said DD and I will come to stay with her as I also have a little sister and didn't want to have to uproot her.
My mum's been seeing someone for the past couple of months and they spend every single minute at her house. Whenever I'd visit with DD she'd ask him to leave as I wasn't comfortable being around a complete stranger especially with my daughter. My mum said that for as long as I stay with her, he won't be in the house and she respects that I need to feel comfortable.
I've only moved in yesterday and she's said that she was crying when he left and she misses him because she's her support system. She was starting to make me feel bad because the reason he's no longer here is because I'm here. I'm obviously going through a difficult time too so I don't want her to just struggle and have no support. She then started crying so I said he can come round for the night whilst we're sleeping if that makes you feel better. He came round late last night and is still here.
My mind isn't in a good place so I hope this doesn't sound too jumbled and it makes sense so far. It seems that she'll go back to having him here everyday/as regularly as possible as she's said she 'needs him to make her feel happy.' My thing is, if you've told me to move in because you need to keep an eye on me and help out with DD, how are you going to do that if you're just in your room with this person you're seeing? DD woke up during the night and my mum couldn't come and get her to take her in her room so I could carry on sleeping because this man that I don't know is there. I ended up staying up with DD in the living room until she went back to sleep. It just defeats the point of us being here and I'm starting to feel really uncomfortable. I'm heavily pregnant and already struggling emotionally. I'm more or less still doing everything that I would be doing if I was back home with DD.
I think I just needed to write this down somewhere as I have no one to talk to about this in real life. I understand my mum deserves her own life and shouldn't have to put her life on pause but what's the point in telling us we'll have to move in or you'll move in with us if you're saying you can't cope if you don't see this guy every second?
She also won't see him outside and he lives with his mum so she isn't comfortable going round there. She's said if he doesn't come here she'll go months without seeing him. Can someone just drop their thoughts down in the comments so I feel as if I'm actually talking to someone? I just feel as if I should go back home and take DD with me