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DP being done for dangerous driving

97 replies

womansaurus · 03/01/2008 09:59

My partner has always acted like a dick behind the wheel. When I met him he had 6 points and his licence for speeding and yet continued to speed EVERYTIME he drove anywhere stating that the law was stupid and he was actually PREVENTING acidents by speeding . He would also rev the engine at pedestrians, race people off traffic lights and generally just act like a twat.

I hated it, I found it childish and embarrassing and I ended up never going in the car with him because of his driving. Anyway lately he didnt seem as bad, I assumed he had changed.

Then a couple of weeks ago he was stopped and reported for dangerous driving .

Apparantly he was on a motorway, stuck in a line of traffic that he reckoned was "going too slow" so he pulled out of the lane and shot past them all...only he then couldn't get back into the queue and he was stuck in a lane he wasn't supposed to be in. Eventually some kind soul let him back in so he pulled in then guess what he did next? Pulled straight back out again and attempted to shoot past another load of traffic .

By this point the police officers that were keeping an eye on him had had enough and pulled him over, long and short of it is that they did him for dangerous driving and said he would hear of a court date within a few weeks.

He's still defiant, at first he admitted it was his fault and that it was only a matter of time before he got pulled over but he soon changed his opinion to "It was their fault, if they hadn't been going so slow I would never have overtaken them". Then it was "it wasn't even dangerous, nobody got hurt, you shouldn't be penalised for what "could" have happened" and then "anyway, it'll probably just get lowered to careless driving"

I'm so annoyed with him, its everybody's fault but his own again and he's so bloody arrogent that hes convinced he'll get away with it like he always has before.

I'm hoping they come down hard on him, I'm sick of him getting away with everything. Does anyone know whats likely to happen? apparantly it could be a fine, a ban or a custodial sentance which is unlikely.

I have a feeling he'll get (another) slap on the wrist and be told not to do it again.

OP posts:
NotQuiteCockney · 03/01/2008 10:04

I'd expect they'll take his speeding history into account?

Cod should be along in a moment, she's good on driving offenses.

Vacua · 03/01/2008 10:05

argh, there but for the grace of god

LadyOfTheFlowers · 03/01/2008 10:05

I don't know what will happen but hopefully he will be punished nefore he kills either himself or some innocent bystander else.

Maybe Cod could give you an idea what will happen.

TigerFeet · 03/01/2008 10:06

not sure if it will amount to the same punishment but the xdh of a friend of mine got done for dangerous driving - 117mph on a motorway - he lost his licence for 12 months and was fined about £500 iirc

agree you need Cod

SantaBabyBeenAnAwfulGoodGirl · 03/01/2008 10:06

he sounds like a right twat babe

berolina · 03/01/2008 10:07

Expect it'll be a fine and ban - which it rather looks like he deserves.

LynetteScavo · 03/01/2008 10:07

Ah, so he's the bloke DH was shouting "What a t**t" at!

clayre · 03/01/2008 10:08

my cousin got done for dangerous driving, he had no previous driving offences and got a fine (cant remember how much) and a six month ban

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womansaurus · 03/01/2008 10:08

I'm hoping they'll take them into consideration but the points have expired and DP reckons that once they expire the police/courts can longer take them into consideration when dealing with new charges? I was hoping he was wrong on this...

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kindersurprise · 03/01/2008 10:10

What an idiot. How will you manage if he does get banned? Do you drive?

LadyOfTheFlowers · 03/01/2008 10:10

Surely they have some permanent record somewhere?
I would hope they do anyway.
Do you have children? Does he ever drive the children around?

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womansaurus · 03/01/2008 10:11

I drive but to be honest I hardly ever get in a car with him anymore anyway as I was convinced he was going to kill us all sooner or later.

Any tbh, this is just another nail in the coffin for our relationship.

I'm going out now but I will check back in later. Thanks for the help/advice and insults directed to DP, makes me feel a bit better

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Gumbo · 03/01/2008 10:14

Not what you want to hear I'm sure, but when I did Jury service I had a case of someone who was charged with dangerous driving. Needless to say he got convicted. He faced a definite ban, a big fine, or a maximum prison sentence of 2 years. As it was his 1st offence he didn't go to jail but did get a suspended sentence.

Hopefully your DP will get off more lightly, but unfortuntely dangerous driving tends to be taken quite seriously. (Presumably if your DP admits guilt he'll get off more lightly anyway...)

lisad123 · 03/01/2008 10:14

The arse that hit hit, got done for dangerous driving, then lowered to driving without due care and attention, he got £160 fine!!

he didnt even have a license, insurance, mot, or tax. GRR

I think we are too soft on such drivers.

Feel sorry for you hun, hope he never hits someone, for his sake and theirs.

Shaniece · 03/01/2008 10:15

My DH had 9 points on his drivers license in the space of a few month . He then asked me to take the next set of points for him to which I told him to sod off.

My DH is also like yours in that its everyone elses fault on the road except his. Some people don;t know how to drive safely which is very very worrying.

I refused to get in the car with him with the DC's for a while. He just can't stick to the speed limit.

Blandmum · 03/01/2008 10:15

He sounds are right arse.

It isn't the fuck up, it is the fact that he is acting like a naughty child and refuses to take responsibility for what he has done like an adult.

becklesparkle · 03/01/2008 10:29

If they do him for Dangerous Driving I think it is an automatic ban.

If they reduce it to Careless Driving then he may get to keep his licence depending on the judge.

LadyMuck · 03/01/2008 10:34

I think that you and he need to wait and see what happens. The police have up to 6 months to decide whether to prosecute or not, so you may not find out that quickly. It may depend on where it happened but the decision locally rests with the police officers involved and their sergeant. In soem areas he could be given the option of a higher fine and having to attend a driving course.

Depending on the severity of the charges eventually prosecuted, he may wish to plead guilty in order to reduce the penalty (I think that effectively you get a third off).

AttilaTheMeerkat · 03/01/2008 10:43

womansaurus

He needs to feel the full force of the legal system because he will end up killing someone the way he's driving. Perhaps as well he is acting defiant now because he is at heart both a coward and a bully.

What's he like in other areas of your relationship - you mention this is another nail in the coffin of your relationship.

Which leads to this next question - why are you still around with regards to him?. If he is showing no respect for other road users then he cannot be showing much consideration and or respect for his own family unit.

Ripeberry · 03/01/2008 10:50

Problem will really start IF he does get banned.
With his past history, could he be the type that just ignores it anyway and carries on driving with no licence and insurance?
Will it mean that you will have to drive him everywhere and have to put up with his moaning?
AB

Blu · 03/01/2008 12:00

I wish the re-hash of the driving test had included a psychological assessment.

From what I see in S London - which is onfested with agressive, knob-headed, arrogant boy-racer drivers who think they are kkings of the road and everyone else is a crap driver, most accidents are caused by bad attitude rather than lack of skill or attention.

lulumama · 03/01/2008 12:06

agree with MB, not just so much what he has done, but lack of responsibility and shifting blame. what happens when he does it again? and injures,maims or kills someone? will that also be their fault? surely after so many points and near misses he would have learnt? I hope he gets more than a slap on the wrist, he needs a serious wake up call before he takes a life.

anorak · 03/01/2008 12:13

I hope you don't fall into the trap of acting as his taxi service when he is banned. It isn't going to be much of a penalty in that case.

Is he the type that will make your life miserable if you don't help him out?

DontCallMeBaby · 03/01/2008 12:16

Of course he can be penalised for 'what could have happened', that's why there's an offence of ATTEMPTED murder. Muppet.

DontCallMeBaby · 03/01/2008 12:17

(him, not OP, obv)