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DP being done for dangerous driving

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womansaurus · 03/01/2008 09:59

My partner has always acted like a dick behind the wheel. When I met him he had 6 points and his licence for speeding and yet continued to speed EVERYTIME he drove anywhere stating that the law was stupid and he was actually PREVENTING acidents by speeding . He would also rev the engine at pedestrians, race people off traffic lights and generally just act like a twat.

I hated it, I found it childish and embarrassing and I ended up never going in the car with him because of his driving. Anyway lately he didnt seem as bad, I assumed he had changed.

Then a couple of weeks ago he was stopped and reported for dangerous driving .

Apparantly he was on a motorway, stuck in a line of traffic that he reckoned was "going too slow" so he pulled out of the lane and shot past them all...only he then couldn't get back into the queue and he was stuck in a lane he wasn't supposed to be in. Eventually some kind soul let him back in so he pulled in then guess what he did next? Pulled straight back out again and attempted to shoot past another load of traffic .

By this point the police officers that were keeping an eye on him had had enough and pulled him over, long and short of it is that they did him for dangerous driving and said he would hear of a court date within a few weeks.

He's still defiant, at first he admitted it was his fault and that it was only a matter of time before he got pulled over but he soon changed his opinion to "It was their fault, if they hadn't been going so slow I would never have overtaken them". Then it was "it wasn't even dangerous, nobody got hurt, you shouldn't be penalised for what "could" have happened" and then "anyway, it'll probably just get lowered to careless driving"

I'm so annoyed with him, its everybody's fault but his own again and he's so bloody arrogent that hes convinced he'll get away with it like he always has before.

I'm hoping they come down hard on him, I'm sick of him getting away with everything. Does anyone know whats likely to happen? apparantly it could be a fine, a ban or a custodial sentance which is unlikely.

I have a feeling he'll get (another) slap on the wrist and be told not to do it again.

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wannaBe · 03/01/2008 12:28

he sounds like an arogant tosser. He should face a driving ban at the very least.

People like that annoy me beyond words. When I worked for one of the large insurance companies, I took a call once from someone who had to put conviction details on his policy, I answered the phone and he said "I am so annoyed right now," bracing myself for a complaint I asked how I could help and he said "I've just been done for speeding, I was doing 70 miles per hour in a 30 mile zone" , and he then went on "but it was a straight road, wtf do the police think they're doing! they should be out there chasing real criminals!". sadly I wasn't allowed to tell him that "if you'd killed a child on that road you would be a real criminal".

Blandmum · 03/01/2008 12:31

I must confess to be wildly irritated by people who think that the rules apply to everyone else except them.

Dh is a fantastic driver. He has the reflexes of a fighter pilot because he was a fighter pilot in the RAF. And he follows the rules of the road, because they are there to keep us all safe.

Breaking the rules doesn't make you clever, or a better driver, it makes you an idiot.

Your dp sounds like a prize arse

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womansaurus · 03/01/2008 16:01

I'm back, thanks for all the replies.

Unfortunately DP has a horrible driving history, it's not just the speeding.

He once spun a car and ended up in a ditch, again he said it wasn't his fault. He's crashed into another car before...that was their fault too apparantly. He hit a CHILD last year, about 7 years old...he said the child ran out in front of him and he simply could not stop in time, that was never even reported to the police which I find odd since the child's parents were present.

Earlier this year he and another car collided slightly...that time I was there and it was one of those roads which merged from two lanes into one, another car was coming up the side of me and DP wouldnt let him in, the other bloke had no choice really but to keep pushing in and the cars ended up scraping each other .

Then there is all the speeding convictions and now this. Yet he still insists that he is an excellent driver and everyone else are just retards on the road (his words).

Our relationship is crap in general, he is one of these that ALWAYS has to be right and he keeps trying to show me up in front of people to make himself look big. I dont think he has much respect for anyone.

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womansaurus · 03/01/2008 16:03

just too add, the incident where the cars scraped each other DP then wound the window down and started hurling abuse at the other bloke, ffing and blinding whilst there were kids in both cars and hammering on the horn like a nutcase, the other bloke and his wife were blatently intimidated. I was so embarrassed.

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onlyjoking9329 · 03/01/2008 16:09

so he calls other people retards
He drives like a w*er
nothing is ever his fault
he hit a child
does he have any good points?

Blandmum · 03/01/2008 16:09

Sounds like a complete fuckwit. Sorry, but he does.

LadyOfTheFlowers · 03/01/2008 16:14

What a cocksmear!
He hit a child and still drives like a prick?
Gees.....

LadyOfTheFlowers · 03/01/2008 16:15

Wonder how he would feel if his mother or child or sister was hit by a tosser like himself....?

wannaBe · 03/01/2008 16:19

what are his redeming points.

WigWamBam · 03/01/2008 16:20

He hit a child and still drives like a dickhead?

Twat.

tiredemma · 03/01/2008 16:21

HE HIT A CHILD AND STILL DRIVES LIKE A FUCKING IDIOT?

He needs locking up, not a bloody fine.

What will it take before he stops this? Wrapping himself around a lamppost??

Bloody fool.

WanderingTrolley · 03/01/2008 16:21

Christ.

I'd be tempted to run him over and have done with him.

Sorry, that's not helpful.

I really do hope he gets banned for a long time, and a big fine if he can afford it, ie it won't impact on the family finances.

WigWamBam · 03/01/2008 16:23

I'd have reported him for hitting the child myself if it had been my dh. Maybe then something would have been done about him. Can't believe the child's parents didn't bother.

brimfull · 03/01/2008 16:26

I hope he gets banned

and I think they should have the power to remove his testicles along with his car keys

Kerri28 · 03/01/2008 16:28

hello, i work as a legal adviser in the magistrates court so i think i'm able to answer you [hmmm] - i am off on maternity leave though

IF the charges stay as dangerous driving and he is found, or pleads guilty (although he sounds like he wont plead ) he WILL be disqualified for at least a year and he'll have to take a restest before getting his license back. however, from what you describe, the charge may be reduced to careless driving in which case (again on conviction) he will get between 3-9 penalty points or a ban.

the ban/penalty points is in addition to any punishment such as a fine etc..

FWIW careless driving only atracts a fine (up to £2500 me thinks) whereas dangerous driving attracts all levels of punishment from fines/community penalties to imprisonment (although prison sounds unlikely unless he has a string of prevous convictions, not just points on his license)

hope this helps - i can answer any more uestions if you have them, but i might not be completely accurate as i've been off workfor 5 months and have baby brain

tiredemma · 03/01/2008 16:35

Im actually enraged that this man is still allowed to drive like this.
A very close family friend lost their wonderful 12 year old son last year to a pathetic prick driving with no regards for anyone but himself. Not only was the family traumatised by the death but the children who were walking home from school with him who saw his horrific death are still recieving counselling for it.

What is wrong with him???

VictorianSqualor · 03/01/2008 16:38

OP, encourage him to bemore of a twat in court, agree it wasnt his fault etc, the bigger twat he seems the mroe likely they'll throw the book at him.
If you're lucky he might get locked up and you can change the locks, sounds like a prize 1 idiot to me.

Boco · 03/01/2008 16:43

Goodness it doesn't sound like his twatishness needs much encouragement! Utter nobber hope he gets banned.

StripeyKnickersSpottySocks · 03/01/2008 16:47

I'd be tempted to write a letter to the court explaining about him hitting the child and his general attitude. Not sure if they're allowed to take that sort of stuff into account but if they can hopefully they would ban him.

expatinscotland · 03/01/2008 16:52

I went out with a bloke who drove just like your DP.

In fact, he'd actually killed a young woman and gotten off with it in court because of course, she wasn't there to tell her side of the story - she pulled out in front of him, not his fault.

He'd been banned several times. He told me he wouldn't need to resit the test after his ban was up, which I knew was BS - the practical after you've been banned is 20 minutes longer, too.

Anyhow, when people drive like twats, it's because they are twats.

He was a dicksmack.

VictorianSqualor · 03/01/2008 16:53

Do you think he'd still drive if he got banned though? A lot of people do.

WigWamBam · 03/01/2008 16:55

Not if you take their car keys off them, they don't.

Particularly if you sling said car keys into the nearest landfill site.

If he still drives when banned, report him. Every single time.

onlyjoking9329 · 03/01/2008 16:55

at a fuess yes i think he probably would still drive after a ban cos in his mind they have it all wrong and it wasn't his fault

onlyjoking9329 · 03/01/2008 16:56

at a guess even

lulumama · 03/01/2008 16:58

ok, he hit a child!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and he still thinks other road users are retards

for fucks sake

what will it take?!?!?

i am wondering why you are with someone who has so little respect for human life, and even with children of his own has so little empathy and compassion

i;d bin him, in fact i hope he goes to prison and you can use the opportunity to find someone who is more worthy of you.