I think.
Recently we had a minor disagreement over a "joke." I was on a stepladder at the top of the stairs painting the top of the wall and he did that thing where you grab someone, jolt them toward a massive drop so their adrenaline goes mad and say "saved your life" or something. So he jolted me toward the stairs, while I was already standing on a ladder and I had no idea he was even there. I had headphones on listening to music and it was absolutely terrifying!! I shouted "what the fuck are you doing you fucking idiot!?"
And he has been sulking and ice cold to me since then. It was on Saturday. He has literally not touched me or shared more than a couple of sentences with me since then. He knows 100% that withdrawing affection is something I consider to be horribly hurtful and abusive and I have, in this time, expressed to him that I feel very unloved and sad. He has done absolutely nothing to make me feel better, nor has he apologised for frightening me, but he expects me to apologise for shouting at him when I literally was terrified. He says I should trust that he would never hurt me or put me in danger and I said I am not apologising for a reaction when I was frightened, perhaps he should apologise for doing something so dangerous! He maintains it wasn't dangerous because he was in control the whole time and I made him feel humiliated by what I said and how I reacted.
He's making me feel absolutely worthless and he's never normally like this. He has got form for sulking like a fucking teenager every so often but not like this. I am so miserable. I told him this and said that I feel like he's doing this now to discourage me from ever sticking up for myself because this will be the result, and he said that's a disgusting thing for me to say!