I'm 23, is it weird for me to date a 29 year old man?

[Lozenge12]

I've been dating a really lovely and respectful man for a couple of months now. He's great and I could see it going somewhere, although do have some concerns as I don't want to 'settle down' for at least another 5/6 years.

I've seen on here that sometimes people will say that when they were 29, they saw 22/23 year olds as children. Is it weird that's he interested in me? It's not too big an age gap is it?

@me4real

My mum was 15 and dad was in his late 30s when they first dated

@Nomorepastry That's called child abuse.

This was 25 or so years ago, not much I can do about it now

Dh and I have the same age gap, and met at the same age. We've been together 25 years. I rarely notice the gap. I'm the older one btw.

My sister was 17 her husband was in late 20’s when they met married 20 years now
I was 21 (a nurse) dating a 29 yo police officer he was a tool now I look back but the age gap didn’t really come into it i don’t think that your age gap is an issue at all, if you like him and you get on what does it matter you’re both adults

My mum was 15 and dad was in his late 30s when they first dated

This is genuinely heartbreaking, what a up abuse of power by a man nearly 40 abusing a child.

@youvegottenminuteslynn

My mum was 15 and dad was in his late 30s when they first dated

This is genuinely heartbreaking, what a up abuse of power by a man nearly 40 abusing a child.

What an abuse of power that was meant to say.

Not at all, OP. I was 23. My boyfriend was 30.
We're still great, great friends years later (I'm coming up on 50 in a few weeks). He was the best guy ever... truly the one who got away.

Many 22 year old men I could view as a man child, but not the other way around.

I was 30 (female) when I met my DP who was 21 (male). We've been together 11 years now. I think it's a fine age gap.

Six years is a perfectly acceptable age gap for adult people, which you are. Go for it.

Of course it's not. As long as you are an adult, you can date whoever you like. Even if others frown on it. I got with my partner at 20, he was 40. We've been together 16 years this year. If you believe everything you read on here, they'd have you believe he was a disgusting perve who sought out a younger girl. Couldn't be further from the truth. I don't believing in judging people on just bare facts. Things are rarely that black and white. You do whatever you want to as a consenting adult.

Sorry *believe in. Phone typo.

When I was 23 I was married to my husband and he was 30 - we are now 55 and 62 and still as happy .

@Iamkmackered1979

My sister was 17 her husband was in late 20’s when they met married 20 years now I was 21 (a nurse) dating a 29 yo police officer he was a tool now I look back but the age gap didn’t really come into it i don’t think that your age gap is an issue at all, if you like him and you get on what does it matter you’re both adults

My dd is 19 (turning 20) and has just met a chap, he is 26 (turning 27).

I was a bit concerned as I did think that he was too old for her. At his age, I was already married and pregnant.

But I have met him, and they make a good match. My dd is really mature for her age, and he is a bit immature iyswim.

I don't know what will happen down the road, but my thinking is that she should enjoy it for what it is right now. My concern is that she is at a different life stage to him, she plans to travel etc and has no intention of settling down. He lives with his mum (she has been a lone parent to him since he was a newborn), is looking to buy a house etc.

It is a niggle at the back of my mind, but if I see them together it kind of erases that thought, as they just seem such a good fit.