Confused!

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My boyfriend slipped into conversation the other day something odd.
He said to me ' I want to do a couple more things before become a dad, so I hope you don't mind waiting'
What does that mean? How should I take it?

I already have two of my own and he knows I want another when the time is right obviously.
How would anyone else read this?

Thanks. 😊

I’d just put it down to him not feeling completely ready yet. My dh was the same, he just needed a little bit more time, wasn’t that he wanted to see what else was out there or go and do anything in particular.
I’d just ask him, in a nice way, if there’s anything that he’s wanting to do?

It could mean a dozen different things. Think it's just ask him directly. If you can't have an in depth conversation about timing of embarking on being parents together I don't think you should.

In simple terms , he's not ready to be tied down with the responsibility of fatherhood and he's being honest about it

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It could mean a dozen different things. Think it's just ask him directly. If you can't have an in depth conversation about timing of embarking on being parents together I don't think you should.

This. If you're asking strangers on MN rather than asking him about his feelings on a huge relationship issue, there's issues in the communication in the relationship.

What's stopped you asking him directly for clarification?

I would take it that before he becomes a dad there are a few things he would like to do first.