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[Confused455]

My DH and OW at his work place had an emotional affair 10 years ago when i was pregnant with my son, he was telling her they were spiritually connected when my son was two weeks old. I caught him in contact with her again two years later when I had my second child. I told him if he didn’t cut all communication it was over.
They haven’t been in contact. We also moved out of london to the countryside.
For some reason today I checked her Instagram page. She was living in London but has now moved with her new husband and kids within 10 miles of us within the last few months.
My alarm bells are ringing. What do I do?

Yesterday I woke up. Cake downstairs and said can we please have a nice weekend for the kids. He said yes. Within 2 mins he started about the forks again. I lost my temper and emptied all the forks on the bed where he was.
We didn’t speak for the rest of the day.
Now I’m lying in bed scared to get up because of what he might be angry about today.

The sooner you get rid, the better x

Keep going, getting rid of that nasty piece of work.
There are plenty more forks in Argos, twat.

You are in a very abusive relationship.

If he gets aggressive, ring the police.

He is scum.

You are right to be done.

So he is definitely going on Thursday. He’s announced it this morning. Saying he doesn’t want to go but he has too.
I actually don’t care if he is going to meet someone else, but at the same time I want to know if he is

I'm so sad to read your updates but you know where you stand now. It's only natural to want to know if he's meeting someone else but you're unlikely to get the truth or to get closure. I hope he moves out and you are able to move on. We'll done for emptying the forks on the bed btw that was epic do not let him bully you

Have a nice weekend for the kids as a couple or as Co parents ? Are you still sharing a bed ect ?

You need to make it crystal clear you are done both physically and mentally, with his personality if he's how he seems he will probably use this other woman to brag away the answers anyway !

@Tontostitis

I'm so sad to read your updates but you know where you stand now. It's only natural to want to know if he's meeting someone else but you're unlikely to get the truth or to get closure. I hope he moves out and you are able to move on. We'll done for emptying the forks on the bed btw that was epic do not let him bully you

Thank you. I wanted to do something shocking

We haven’t had sex in 6 months. He wants me to dress up but when I do he’s not interested. And he’s a very sexual person. He doesn’t hug touch or nothing anymore

So I just looked at her business website and I can’t actually believe this. Her office is in the same office as him, where they had the emotional affair. They both work for two different companies but in the same building. What are the odds

Are you still sleeping in the same bed though since you told him it's over?

Um. That's not a coincidence op.
Get rid asap. Speak to a solicitor ASAP. And yes, why not contact her dh and drop some bombs in her life.
Sorry you're going through this. You will be OK. Line up some real life support.

Disengagement is your only option atm

Move out of your bedroom and start sorting yourself out for separation and divorce

Get all the financial papers you need and just get on with it

She is a red herring, he’s AWFUL- you deserve better, you really do.

Tell him to Fork Off!!

He sounds disloyal op.

What will you do ?

Are you telling him you know about the same company thing.

@Confused455

I actually rang her the last time, and told her if she kept messing around with my life I would start messing around in hers. That’s mainly when she disappeared.

I'd resend it.

However, as a Mum I learned never to threaten consequences unless I was absolutely certain I could and would carry it out.

Sounds like he has started in ‘The Script’ by blaming you for being the problem. Probably thinks he being really clever. I would just set it out clear as day, ‘I know why you have started this mean behaviour towards me because you have started up your EA again. I have told you I am not going through that again! I’d like a divorce and for you to move out.’

How are you @Confused455 ? It would be lovely to have an update and to know you and your DC are ok.

Him being mean to you at the moment over little things is a good indicator he's doing something. I think they do it to try to distance themselves and see you as this unbearable person. He's probably hoping you'll have a big argument so he can go off and have time away while he goes to meet up with the ow. The fact they in the same office again I bet my money on it.