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Original poster

Boyfriend gone in a mood...was I in the wrong?

85 replies

starlights33 · 15/02/2022 17:18

Sunday we went to Liverpool for two nights.
The train got us in at 1.30pm
The plan was to go out on the night and have a meal and drinks (I bought a new outfit ,quite dressy)
We couldn't check in hotel till 3pm so we dropped bags off at hotel and went into town.
I said il pop into h&m.
He wanted to watch the England rugby match which started at 3pm...so I suggested going to a pub and then checking in to hotel after it finished (around 4.40pm)

He said no he wanted to check in before that.
So we got to hotel for 3.10 pm and he said wanted to go straight out and watch rugby but stay out all night(without me getting changed)
I looked a hot mess,it was raining and miserable.
I said let's go straight out but I need to go back after rugby to change my outfit and top up makeup (half hour tops )
He said he couldn't be bothered to do that as once we were out we should be out.

So he sat in the hotel room face like thunder.
I asked him why he was being like that,he said he wanted to watch rugby in the pub with atmosphere(I said let's go to the pub before we checked in and then i said let's go straight to the pub after we checked in) so he had two chances to go....both wasn't good enough for him.

Was I in the wrong?I wasn't stopping him from watching it
All I wanted was half hour to get changed after it finished.
I would have been out by half 5 regardless

OP posts:
WheelieBinPrincess · 15/02/2022 17:21

Wasn’t it an option for you to pop back and get ready yourself, then tie up with him? I would have just left him to it. What was the night like after that?

SamphiretheStickerist · 15/02/2022 17:22

So, he didn't realy want to go away with you this weekend, he wanted to watch the rugby? He could have just said and you could have gone next weekend, when there are no 6 nation matches on.

He's a twat!

Original poster
starlights33 · 15/02/2022 17:22

I suggested leaving him in the pub (it was opposite hotel ) and he could have a pint whilst I got changed ..he said he didn't want to be out alone.

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WheelieBinPrincess · 15/02/2022 17:22

Well he sounds like a big baby then, what a weirdo.

Original poster
starlights33 · 15/02/2022 17:22

It was meant to be a nice two days away for Valentine's Day

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SamphiretheStickerist · 15/02/2022 17:23

That doesn't really go well with 6 Nations, does it?

But he doesn't half sound like hard work!

Finfintytint · 15/02/2022 17:25

Bit confused but I couldn’t be arsed to change an outfit and re-do makeup half way through the day. ( disclaimer: I don’t have outfits as such and don’t do makeup !).
Sounds like going out to enjoy the rugby was his preference with no mucking about with outfits/ makeup,etc.

CharlotteRose90 · 15/02/2022 17:25

Why didn’t you just leave him in the pub and go and get ready. I get his point once I’m out I’m out I don’t want to be faffing about back and forth. You don’t need both of you there so you can get ready in peace. Neither of you were wrong just had different ideas over your night.

Trisolaris · 15/02/2022 17:25

No you weren’t in the wrong, he didn’t want to compromise at all on any details. He wanted to dictate the whole evening and then sulked when you didn’t fall in line.

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starlights33 · 15/02/2022 17:25

We were going to a nice restaurant and I had a hoodie and jeans on as we had travelled for 4 hours.
I didn't want to go out looking and feeling like crap.

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WelcomeEverythingIsFine · 15/02/2022 17:26

Oh this is ridiculous on his part - how long have you been together?

Mermaidwaves · 15/02/2022 17:26

OP I would dump this one, be prepared for your life to revolve around never ending sporting events and for him to sulk if he misses anything, these types of men are so boring! No thanks!

WheelieBinPrincess · 15/02/2022 17:27

I mean no way would I have let him dictate that, I’d have just gone and got changed if that’s what I wanted to do. A grown man who can’t sit in his own in a pub for a bit holds no attraction for me.

user1481840227 · 15/02/2022 17:28

Of course you weren't in the wrong.

You simply wanted to get changed and do your make up. He's 100% in the wrong no matter what way he tries to spin it.

What was he like for the rest of the weekend?

Original poster
starlights33 · 15/02/2022 17:30

We have been together nearly a year now.

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caranations · 15/02/2022 17:30

Wow, what a romantic. Not.

He was being a totally selfish git to demand that you spend your weekend away in a pub watching rugby. Stuff that for a game of soldiers.

Bin.

Original poster
starlights33 · 15/02/2022 17:31

He was miserable
And wanted us back to watch match of the day 2 and the super bowl.

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ShowOfHands · 15/02/2022 17:31

You have different priorities. Like a pp, I wouldn't want to go back to a hotel for half an hour while somebody did a costume change but I'd compromise and I certainly wouldn't sulk. As somebody who doesn't bother with make up and outfits requiring faff, I'd err on the side of let's go out and stay out. If my friend/date felt uncomfortable, I'd go back to the room and wait with good grace though.

Dh always wants to check in asap in case of issues because then you can get on with the reason for your visit without worrying so I do understand that.

HollowTalk · 15/02/2022 17:32

Did you realise beforehand you'd be in a pub watching rugby on your weekend away? It's not something most women would want to do.

girlmom21 · 15/02/2022 17:33

I'd dump him too. Nothing is good enough unless it's on his terms. Does he normally throw strops?

L40Postcode · 15/02/2022 17:34

Bin this one, you’re away for the weekend and he wanted to dictate the itinerary to ensure he could spend it glued to a screen watching sports.

Raise your standards.

ShowOfHands · 15/02/2022 17:34

Aah X posts.

If the whole trip revolved around sport, I'd be a bit hacked off. I can understand the rugby as it's a big event and you sounded fine with it, and possibly superbowl as a one off as that was during the night, but bloody match of the day. Nah.

It doesn't sound like you're a good match and sulking is bloody unattractive.

Suprima · 15/02/2022 17:38

Oh god what a baby bin him

Couldn’t be out in a pub by himself- really?!

You compromised plenty.

What future do you guys have if all he wants to do is watch sports all weekend on what should be a romantic shagathon and making fuck-me eyes across fancy dinner tables? You have been together such a short amount of time.

Please don’t tell me he threw a toddler strop over not being able to watch men kick the ball all weekend then tried it on with you…

Original poster
starlights33 · 15/02/2022 17:41

The last time we went away in November to Manchester we sat in the pub for 5 hours whilst he watched the Manchester derby (build up and after )

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Thethreecs · 15/02/2022 17:45

If he's a sport fanatic then you're ALWAYS going to have this, everything will be based around sport. You definitely need to work out if that is what you want. I dated a guy like this and it was draining going from pub to pub watching different sports and who was showing what and who had the better screen, it ended when he started favouring bar food over a meal in restaurants and I'd be sitting there all dressed up with a packed pub of men shouting at a screen. He never wanted me to go get changed when out, I also like to dress up going to nice restaurants, I think he use to prefer me dressed down so I'd end up staying in the pub and not doing something else.