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Original poster

Ex is taking DS to school when there is no one to collect him,

77 replies

Stickitmondaymorning2022 · 14/02/2022 08:41

We’re all in isolation, DS had covid last week and was testing negative Friday/Saturday so went to his fathers, I’ve asked him to bring him home but he’s taken him to school, he cannot pick him up.

DS has ASD and has never walked home on his own before (year 6) and if anything happens we would have to break isolation rules to look for him.

I’m going to tell the school he’s done it against my wishes.

I’m so annoyed and worried.

OP posts:
Ohdoleavemealone · 14/02/2022 08:45

How far is it home? Could another parent that lives nearby keep an eye on him?

Tillymintpolo · 14/02/2022 08:49

Are you all positive ?

Original poster
Stickitmondaymorning2022 · 14/02/2022 08:51

No one who walks the same route.

Yes 4 adults all positive.

OP posts:
Darhon · 14/02/2022 08:55

Surely the most well adult puts a mask on and walks to collect him, not going in the playground?

Agree your ex was wrong to do this but we are weeks away from free LFD testing ending and isolation with it, I imagine. And being outside and masked up if you are several days into the infection with the viral load lessening is going to be low risk.

Original poster
Stickitmondaymorning2022 · 14/02/2022 08:58

The track and trace person said it would be a police matter to break isolation.

OP posts:
HandWash · 14/02/2022 08:58

Just go and collect him? Stay away from others, it's fine.

BuddhaForMary · 14/02/2022 08:59

@Stickitmondaymorning2022

The track and trace person said it would be a police matter to break isolation.
How would they know you'd broken isolation?
Original poster
Stickitmondaymorning2022 · 14/02/2022 08:59

Also not we’re not in England so that may not be the case here.

OP posts:
Redglitter · 14/02/2022 09:01

@Stickitmondaymorning2022

The track and trace person said it would be a police matter to break isolation.
Trust me the Police have neither the resources or inclination to chase up someone going out when they should be isolating.

As pp said if someone is well enough get a mask on, avoid anyone at the school and walk him home

Alternatively shove a bottle of wine in your bag & say you're off to a work meeting 😉

HandWash · 14/02/2022 09:02

No one is going to be arrested for collecting their vulnerable child from school.

BuddhaForMary · 14/02/2022 09:02

Ahh that information might've been useful in your first post.

TheHoleNineYards · 14/02/2022 09:03

When I had it and my dc didn’t, I drove to school (masked up) and a TA walked them to the car once the rest of the crowd had cleared. Its worth you phoning school to ask if they could do that too.

1happyhippie · 14/02/2022 09:03

Just put a mask on and go and collect him either in the car or walking.
My friend collected her dc 10mins early when she was positive, so she didn’t come in to contact with other parents at all.

DropYourSword · 14/02/2022 09:03

@Stickitmondaymorning2022

The track and trace person said it would be a police matter to break isolation.
If you literally don't have anyone else that can collect him, what else are you supposed to do though! Surely though your Ex could, even if it meant he had to finish work early (the only reason I would think he genuinely couldn't is if he's travelled a distance after dropping him off this morning) Can't isolation be broken in an emergency? And then keep him home once you've picked him up.
Endofdaysarehere · 14/02/2022 09:05

Do you also have ASD OP?

Because you seem very rigid about not breaking isolation?
It’s not black and white, your in a grey area where you will need to put on a mask and keep him safe.
Living in the grey is worrying, but you can do it.

RevolvingPivot · 14/02/2022 09:06

I do really feel for you. Can you not phone the school and go meet him now a little away from school. It won't be as busy then.

What's the alternative?

School phone at 3pm you say you cannot go they call the police / social services?

BuddhaForMary · 14/02/2022 09:06

OP said she's not in the U.K. so isolation rules will be different.

Which country are you in OP? Posters can only go by their own experience of isolation.

RevolvingPivot · 14/02/2022 09:07

I have ASD too and stupidly registered a negative test as positive. My family told me not to isolate but I was told it was a criminal offence so I did even though I was negative.

bumblingbovine49 · 14/02/2022 09:07

Can any of you drive? Call the school and explain what has happened. They should agree to walk your son outside to leave him where you are

liveforsummer · 14/02/2022 09:10

We had a child collected last week by the mum who informed us her, her husband and other child had all just tested positive. She wore a mask and stayed away from the other parents. No problem, what else was she meant to do, her 6 year old child needed to get home. There are no trackers on people with covid to alert the police or test and protect that you have left your home

Dyrene · 14/02/2022 09:10

Call one of his friends’ parents and tell them the problem. Most people will try to help, even if it involves walking a different way home first.

TrashyPanda · 14/02/2022 09:11

@BuddhaForMary

OP said she's not in the U.K. so isolation rules will be different.

Which country are you in OP? Posters can only go by their own experience of isolation.

She doesn’t say that. She says she is not in England. Big difference.
liveforsummer · 14/02/2022 09:12

@BuddhaForMary

OP said she's not in the U.K. so isolation rules will be different.

Which country are you in OP? Posters can only go by their own experience of isolation.

No she didn't she said she's not in England.
Dyrene · 14/02/2022 09:13

Yes. It’s interesting that so many people have interpreted not in England as not in the Uk. 🙄

If it’s scotland. Call the school and they’ll help you sort something. You could do a contactless pick up a bit early or something.

BuddhaForMary · 14/02/2022 09:14

Ok she's not in England, either way the rules are clearly different for her 🙄

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