Ex is taking DS to school when there is no one to collect him,

[Stickitmondaymorning2022]

We’re all in isolation, DS had covid last week and was testing negative Friday/Saturday so went to his fathers, I’ve asked him to bring him home but he’s taken him to school, he cannot pick him up.

DS has ASD and has never walked home on his own before (year 6) and if anything happens we would have to break isolation rules to look for him.

I’m going to tell the school he’s done it against my wishes.

I’m so annoyed and worried.

I'm not in England either, the rules are to isolate but if you need to get your child from school then you need to do it. As I said we had this exact situation at work the other day. The parent told us but she didn't have to if it was somewhere where the police would instantly be called if it is indeed somewhere else with super strict rules

Either collect him 20 minutes early or 20 minutes later, mask up and avoid other people. Single parent with two primary aged dc, I’ve had little choice but to occasionally break the rules over the last two years.

Call the school. In similar circumstances, our school were allowing parents that were still positive to drive into the car park and wait for their kids (remaining in their car) who would then be escorted to the car by a member of staff. We managed to make other arrangements with friends for the few days I was still positive and DS was negative, but it was a useful back up arrangement. It won't be the first time school have had this experience.

It’s my partner who is more ‘by the book’ than me, would you all continue to break isolation and send your child to school for the rest of the week after today?

My point about it being in England is that we are not close to having no isolation/tests.

I work in a school office and have walked lots of children out to isolating parents recently. When we all had it a few weeks ago I picked up and dropped off dd2 a few minutes late to avoid the crowds as her school layout lends itself less well to asking the office staff to pop out.

@Stickitmondaymorning2022

It’s my partner who is more ‘by the book’ than me, would you all continue to break isolation and send your child to school for the rest of the week after today?

My point about it being in England is that we are not close to having no isolation/tests.

No I would t continue to go out that's a choice to repeatedly break it this is an emergency once off and there's no other option available to you

For Christ's sake, go and get him. If it's even crossed your mind that 'something might happen,' you need to.

You're allowed to leave your home in an emergency. Ensuring a child with additional needs can get home safely is an emergency.

It's a bit strange your ex is sending him home to a covid household rather than keeping him for a few extra days.

For today, you have no option but mask up and go collect him.

You can then decide what you’re going to do rest of week.

I agree that you should contact school for advice. Ours are also allowing Covid positive parents to drive right to the school door, and then a teacher brings the child out to the car. It seems to be fairly standard practice.

I mean, if you had small children (too young to stay alone in the house) and one tested positive, followed by the other, followed by you, they'd potentially be missing almost a month of school if no one with Covid ever left the house and you had no alternative transport options.

Ring school and explain. Ask how they’d prefer you to collect your dc (early / late / different entrance to usual etc). Then mask up and get them.

I agree that you should contact school for advice. Ours are also allowing Covid positive parents to drive right to the school door, and then a teacher brings the child out to the car. It seems to be fairly standard practice.

But assuming you are in England, OP is somewhere with stricter rules. We don't know where so don't know how much stricter but the school may well not approve of/facilitate this so better just to use common sense and collect the child seeing as there is no other option but to go out anyway

If four adults have covid, why the hell isn't your Ex keeping him until you're well?? Can you call school and clarify he's going back to his Dad's as you're all ill?

I'd keep him out all week if he comes back to you op, do what you need to to collect him (do you drive? Can he make his way to the car? Can you get a teacher to put him in a taxi?) because surely if no one collects it'll me a matter for social services or the equivalent.
What's the punishment for breaking isolation?

My point about it being in England is that we are not close to having no isolation/tests.

At all points my kids were back at school, I would have gone to get them in this situation. It's not really that isolation/testing is coming to an end. Most covid - even omicron - it caught close up inside and with the viral load being high (usually at the start of the illness). This is really low risk.

Is you partner entrenched because your ex has done this? It's not your poor son's fault.

Call the school and explain a TA has walked a child to the car park at 14:30 to meet a parent in this situation.

The Covid years have had a negative impact on people was common sense.

this has come up on several threads on here.

The schools (apparently) will help, if you let them know, drive to school masked up, they will bring child out to car.

It isn't ideal, but it is doable, and yes, technically it breaks isolation.

I know one family where the teacher walked the child home, but that family has very poor attendance, so the school bent over backwards to get the child in to school.

It’s very interesting that hardly anyone is commenting on the fact his Dad thinks it’s fine to have done this against my wishes.

@Stickitmondaymorning2022

It’s very interesting that hardly anyone is commenting on the fact his Dad thinks it’s fine to have done this against my wishes.

He's an equal parent. He wants his child in school. Your wishes about that aren't really relevant.

If he said "oh no don't take him to school because I can't pick him up" on any other day you'd have told him that's his problem and to sort something out.

I had covid last week and was told
i was able to take and collect my children from school as long as I didn't enter the school

Oh. So you wanted condemnation of your ex for sending a child who doesn’t have covid to school? Presumably with ASD staying in his routine is helpful. Maybe his dad was trying to do what was best for him.

@Stickitmondaymorning2022

It’s very interesting that hardly anyone is commenting on the fact his Dad thinks it’s fine to have done this against my wishes.

well, that has now happened and the issue is how to collect him. So most are focussing on the practicalities

@Stickitmondaymorning2022

It’s very interesting that hardly anyone is commenting on the fact his Dad thinks it’s fine to have done this against my wishes.

What would be the point of that. It has happened. Commenting on it won't address your problem which I thought was what you we're looking for with this post

At my child's school staff bring children with isolating parents out a few mins early by the main door. They meet parents (wearing masks) and hand over at a short distance.

@Stickitmondaymorning2022

The track and trace person said it would be a police matter to break isolation.

Actually, you can break isolation in certain conditions and emergencies. Could someone from your school walk him to you or your car for a non contact pick up?