Kick him out or keep trying?

[cyclingmum21]

Been married for 13 years, together for 20. Have 2 kids, 15 & 16. Husband has been very grumpy and angry for no reason for last couple of years. Yesterday he told me to "F off and die." I asked him if he meant it and he said his life would be easier if I was dead. He has said he doesn't think he loves me anymore. He said we can just carry on living in the same house but separately for the sake of the kids.
Do I kick him out? What if he doesn't leave?

Make sure anything you have that is precious to you is out of the way so he can't claim it, same for birth certificates, passports, driving licence, car insurance & logbook. Make sure you have a bank account in your sole name & transfer all your income to that account. I would also look at changing the locks or adding an additional lock so he can't get in when you are out.

Thanks for asking. He moved out on 4th April after I had to ask him to go. He has now agreed that we both needed space. He likes the flat he is in. Nothing decided about our future but life is much easier at the moment and home is a lovely relaxing place again.

Thanks. I’m feeling stronger already. I know I can do it on my own but I do still love him - the nice version that I fell in love with, not the horrible abusive man he has turned into. I’m hoping that he will realise how he needs to change and everything will be good again but I know there is very little chance of that. Deep down I think this will become permanent but I want to try and get us into a place where we can be pleasant to each other for the kids.