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Men’s opinion on hysterectomies

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Shesheadingonin · 13/02/2022 22:53

A question for the men please. If you were seeing a woman in her 30s or 40s and had a loving, tactile relationship and didn’t want any more kids, would you be put off if you found out your partner had a hysterectomy? I can’t imagine why but genuinely interested to know if anyone even cares?

My current partner of 7 months has absolutely no idea. He has commented that it’s refreshing that I don’t complain when I’m on my period as that has been his experience. I still ovulate and get some discomfort/cramps but no bleeding.

I plan to tell him but wondered if guys are really bothered?

OP posts:

JimmyDurham · 13/02/2022 23:11

No, not in the slightest.

HowlongWillThisTakeNow · 13/02/2022 23:20

No, not sure why you even tell him , not really his business

irene9 · 13/02/2022 23:43

"He has commented that it’s refreshing that I don’t complain when I’m on my period as that has been his experience"
Ah the poor love. That's a nice warning to you anyway. Don't be whining to me luv with your women's problems.

PurpleThursdays · 13/02/2022 23:47

"He has commented that it’s refreshing that I don’t complain when I’m on my period as that has been his experience"

What the fuck?

Mersault · 14/02/2022 00:32

I'd be more concerned with his opinion on periods tbh

AnyFucker · 14/02/2022 00:36

What’s it got to do with men ?

nocoolnamesleft · 14/02/2022 00:39

He has commented that it’s refreshing that I don’t complain when I’m on my period as that has been his experience.

Sounds like a misogynist.

DropYourSword · 14/02/2022 00:41

Why would a man care, if he didn't want any more kids??
I've had my gallbladder removed - not sure any guy would care about that either!

TheSmallAssassin · 14/02/2022 00:43

I think you are worrying about the wrong thing too, the whole "refreshing" thing would be ringing alarm bells for me.

Lockdownbear · 14/02/2022 00:45

I don't really think it's anyone's business bit I hope you have been honest that kids are definitely not on the cards.

DramaAlpaca · 14/02/2022 00:46

Not his body, not his business. I can't see why he'd be bothered at all.

DowntonCrabby · 14/02/2022 00:47

Bless him it’s refreshing is it? What a prick, you deserve better OP

CowboyBebop · 14/02/2022 02:41

I don't imagine a reasonable man would care provided children are out of the question. But I am a bit surprised you've been together 7 months and he thinks you're having periods when you're not. Also the "refreshing " comment would be a huge red flag that he's going to be a dick about women's health issues.

Pyewhacket · 14/02/2022 02:50

Also the "refreshing " comment would be a huge red flag that he's going to be a dick about women's health issues.

Probably because he's had experience of women being a dick about female health issue !.

VeganIsTheFuture · 14/02/2022 02:56

He has commented that it’s refreshing that I don’t complain when I’m on my period as that has been his experience.

😏 A Prince among men.

Avarua · 14/02/2022 03:14

It's none of any man's business

mathanxiety · 14/02/2022 03:43

No, it's because he is a dick.

Anyone who tells you you are better than other women because X, Y, or Z is someone to steer clear of.

In this case, his 'compliment' is a backhanded swipe at women in general, and evidence that he is pig ignorant of women's health.

Periods and other uterus-related issues cause huge problems for many women and tend to be ignored and dismissed.

I would drop this man if I were you. He's not a catch.

TacCat49 · 14/02/2022 04:22

Why the hell would any man be interested unless he was your doctor or gynecologist.

Weatherwax13 · 14/02/2022 04:30

Always be wary of any bloke saying something on the theme of "you're not like other women" like it's a compliment.

isthismylifenow · 14/02/2022 05:11

I don't understand your post OP.

He has no idea? Do you mean about having had a hysterectomy?

Why do you think it will matter this much? Surely he had realised you have not had a period, has he not asked the reasoning for this?

And why have you asked for a mens opinion?

MrsTimRiggins · 14/02/2022 05:14

@mathanxiety

No, it's because he is a dick.

Anyone who tells you you are better than other women because X, Y, or Z is someone to steer clear of.

In this case, his 'compliment' is a backhanded swipe at women in general, and evidence that he is pig ignorant of women's health.

Periods and other uterus-related issues cause huge problems for many women and tend to be ignored and dismissed.

I would drop this man if I were you. He's not a catch.

☝🏼☝🏼☝🏼☝🏼

fallfallfall · 14/02/2022 05:20

okay, most women who have hysterectomies still have vagina's.
unless the man is interested in fathering a family he really shouldn't care if a woman has her uterus or not?

RedRobin100 · 14/02/2022 05:29

He has commented that it’s refreshing that I don’t complain when I’m on my period as that has been his experience.

Charming.

Isn’t he a lucky duck doesn’t have to go constantly dragging people down with his complaining..

Anothergreatday · 14/02/2022 05:47

@Pyewhacket

Also the "refreshing " comment would be a huge red flag that he's going to be a dick about women's health issues.

Probably because he's had experience of women being a dick about female health issue !.

That could only be a comment from a man and one that doesn’t have a clue what women go through each month The OPs partners comment was that it’s ‘ refreshing not to hear women complain about their periods ‘ What special training and knowledge do you have about the female body , the uterus and periods
That qualifies you to say a woman complaining about a period is being a dick ? When did you get your gynaecology qualifications ?

HoppingPavlova · 14/02/2022 05:57

He has commented that it’s refreshing that I don’t complain when I’m on my period as that has been his experience.

What. A. Dick.

What was your response to this? I would have been quite stunned to be frank. I’m sure whenever he suffers any type of pain or discomfort he doesn’t mention it so he can be refreshing to others (bloody doubt it). Seriously, this would have been it for me.

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