Men’s opinion on hysterectomies

[Shesheadingonin]

A question for the men please. If you were seeing a woman in her 30s or 40s and had a loving, tactile relationship and didn’t want any more kids, would you be put off if you found out your partner had a hysterectomy? I can’t imagine why but genuinely interested to know if anyone even cares?

My current partner of 7 months has absolutely no idea. He has commented that it’s refreshing that I don’t complain when I’m on my period as that has been his experience. I still ovulate and get some discomfort/cramps but no bleeding.

I plan to tell him but wondered if guys are really bothered?

I personally don't see the periods comment as an issue, he maybe just said it as on off the cuff comment - so no need for "red flags" IMO. If it's something you want to get off your chest by telling him then go ahead. If he is planning on having children in the future then I think it's only fair you tell him your position so he can make his own mind up. If it were a female wanting a family in the future and she was dating a guy who neglected to tell her he's had the snip, then they'd be out roar! Tell him to get it off your chest if you feel you need too.

OP I think his comment about it being refreshing is very relevant to you.
I assume you suffered some sort of issue to have been through a hysterectomy so I would take notice of this. What if he had been your partner at the time, surely you want someone who supports rather than belittles?

Anyway, regarding men's views on women who have hysterectomies. What were you wondering? If they see you as old/less than a women etc?

@AlexaShutUp

I also agree that the period comments are a massive red flag, I'm afraid.

This.

His comment may seem minor on the face of it, but for a man to make such a callous and self absorbed comment about women, especially about an issue he has never had to suffer first hand to be judging on, it shows a clear lack of empathy which will be a HUGE problem in other areas of a relationship once the honeymoon period is over. There are ALWAYS warning signs with bad men. Take heed @Shesheadingonin

’The ‘dick’ and ‘get rid’ comments aren’t a surprise really. You’ve all jumped on one paragraph, I can’t really give you our full relationship in one post, nor would I want to.’
Aww, I’m sure every is deeply sorry for replying to your exact words. Enjoy your refreshing boyfriend 😄

@irene9

"He has commented that it’s refreshing that I don’t complain when I’m on my period as that has been his experience" Ah the poor love. That's a nice warning to you anyway. Don't be whining to me luv with your women's problems.

@irene9 That' exactly what I thought. Hope he was nice to his previous partners.

Oh dear OP. Two giant ref flags already & I am sorry to be brutal, but one of them is from you.

A man who reckons it’s refreshing that I don’t complain when I’m on my period as that has been his experience - is going to find a woman who reckons her hysterectomy is something she ought to worry about broaching to him, an absolute pushover.

You have been had by one of the oldest negging lines on the book.
"You're not like other women, you are special".
It's not a compliment OP - ever.
It's code for "I dislike women, & plan to keep this one in line by telling her how she ought to behave, because I am special & she needs to kowtow to my wishes & opinions."

Ditch the fucker, & don't accept anything less than a man, who, if you decide to tell him about your hysterectomy, offers you nothing but "sorry you had to go through that & I hope your recovery was as fast & pain-free as possible."

You’ve all jumped on one paragraph, I can’t really give you our full relationship in one post, nor would I want to.

Of course we have OP - because the one comment we've all spotted is a walking advertisement for misogyny.

And your worry about what a MAN will think of you for no longer having a uterus is concerning.

Well, he's clearly a twat (as pointed out by bulk of previous posters).

Also, your relationship seems weird. I can't imagine a major surgery not coming up at some point in conversation. Not least while he was complementing you on how refreshing it is that you don't complain about periods.