I am thinking of ending my 8 year marriage

[Adifferentperson]

I don't think I love my DH anymore and over the last 6 months or so I can't bear him touching me. The thing is, he can't just 'cudldle' me without wanting more, i.e.sex & that irritates me.

DH is a chauvanist pig at times, in that he refuses to do any household chores, although he is good at entertaining the kids, so I suppose I can't complain.

Little things are starting to irritate me & I just find it hard to be even a tiny bit affectionate to him. The other side of the coin is I do feel sorry for him in that I suffer with depression and the last few months it has got really bad. I am not on AD's (had to come off them for other health reasons) so feel even worse. I suffer raging PMT & I am a complete bitch at times.

If I leave my DH I will have nowhere to go which is obviously a worry as we have two young DC's. He is the breadwinner.

Sorry for the rant. I don't really know what I am askign you here, I just needed to get this off my chest I feel so so low.

Another thing that is very worrying is I have started to drink more wine at night. It started with 2 small glasses a night now it is nearly a bottle most nights . I just find the alcohol makes me forgot stuff and makes me happy for a short time.

I work as a clinician in mental health. Antidepressants are recommended for the tretament of moderate to severe depression. Psychotherapy of any kind and the prescription of an AD are not mutually exclusive and moderate-severe depression is most often effectively treated by a combination of the two. It is not possible to diagnose whether somebody is depressed and if so, to what severity from a bried posting on a internet site. I am not sure what "rules" that Pixie is referring to since we (NHS TRUST) employ a large number of people in direct patient roles who have mental health problems (past and present)- effective clinical supervision will detect if there are any problems.

I meant direct patient CONTACT roles!

thanks looby, makes me feel a bit better .

Well tomorrow could be the beginning of the rest of your life then ADP! Get to the docs!

ADifferentPerson - would you look into Relate or similar sessions? Or see if there is something which you and your dp can get involved in together? If cuddle = sex in your household then it could lead to resentment stored up for the future - a bit of a vicious cycle.

I hope you are able to sort it out.

Take care x

Thanks guys. I have some issues from the past I need to address- I feel sorry for DH sometimes.

Why are some women so hormonal?

Men are hormonal too! Theyjust don;t have as many sharp peaks and troughs every month due to our fertility cycle. Really, you can get on a more even keel. But don't beat yourself up about the past either. Accept when you were wrong, aploigise if you feel you should and then try get on with things. But don't let the past poison your future.