Why did you leave?

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Just that really- if you have, what made you leave your relationship?

No realistic prospect of improvement and a flash forward to what my life-all of it-would be like if I stayed.

The weaker I got .. the stronger he got .

He just didn’t want to commit to all the things I wanted in for my/our future life.. house.. marriage.. children. It was obvious when I look back now but at the time I didn’t cotton on for ages.

Found myself telling our children to shush at the dinner table as DH (their DF) arrived home from work.

He hit me for 5 years. I left when he hit me when I was 3 months pregnant. My baby is 25 and I'm thankful most days that I left when I did. Haven't seen or heard of him for years. Emotional scars are still with me.

He cheated. He began a year long affair 2 weeks after our Dd was born

He was abusive and dragging me down, life with him was depressing and going nowhere.

Cheating. Lies. Deceit. More lies. Cock lodger.

How do we name and shame all these bastards? There should be a cheaters register.

DV, lying, cheating, financial abuse…many years ago now, so glad I left when I did.

He cheated.

He said he ‘just wanted to date’ me after eight years and didn’t want to make any plans for the future together because he ‘just lives in the moment’. Twat.

He never wanted to spend any time with me or the children and he was a sex pest.

We had 2 kids and I remember just having no interest in sex with him for 2 years. We just lost all the intimacy. He just didn't have any interests beyond work. Never got enthusiastic about much. Always tired. Never did "man jobs" that I couldn't do juggling the kids etc.

I was terrified of him. Still am tbh.

Abuse. Lies. Lies. Lies. Lies. Destroying my mental health. More lies. Cheating (I think but who knows due to lies), oh and drugs.

@TheSpecialist

Cheating. Lies. Deceit. More lies. Cock lodger.

Yes to what you've said! After me, two subsequent girlfriends contacted me re his abuse of them. Almost too late.

Financially abusive. Literally didnt give me a penny for years as I was a sahm and it was "his" money.
Cheated on me with two prostitutes around the same time we had our second stillborn. I found out when it appeared in a national newspaper.
Threatened that if we split I would be penniless and homeless. To be honest five years after we split he is very close to making that come true.

1. Cheated
2. cheated
3. Narcissist, dangerous, thank god he was just a bf and not living together (we were together for 18m and 12 of those months were me trying to get rid of him. That only happened when my NC exh ended his relationship and came back into our lives. Not a relationship but to see his kids again. He told the narc to F off and thankfully he did.)
4. Liar and paid more attention to my teenage daughter 🙄 again, luckily just a bf

Boredom

I listened to how his dad talked down to his mum. My blood ran cold and the missing puzzle piece snapped into place. I had never been able to work out why he was so petty and mean to me. Learned it from his df.
The lies, penny pinching and inequality. I started the divorce 2 months later. He was really shocked. Then downright nasty.
Not one second of my life has been wasted on regret.

He was a dick, and told me he wanted the same things as me, strung me along for 6 years, then admitted he didn't.. all the while gaslighting me and making me believe I was completely worthless.

So yes, leaving was without a doubt the best option.

1. Cheated
2. Cheated and violent

I asked my partner to go on holiday and he suggested Wales sudden realisation we had nothing in common

I suddenly hit me one day that despite insisting he loved me, insisting we got married (which we did) that he didn't actually like me!