Sorry I’m advance this is going to be long…
2016 I met a man he was amazing! We started seeing each other it was lovely. Spent most weekends with him, lovely holidays etc but he couldn’t fully commit. He put it down to the break up of his marriage 12 years prior. We tried to make it work but ultimately wot he has to offer me wasn’t enough.
I moved on met someone else, he remained single (as he had been in the time between his wife and I) we kept in contact purely as friends if u could even call it that. Just the odd message here and there. He often expressed how he regretted losing me and how he would do things different but i was with someone and well that was that.
I split up with my partner a while back. And my ex was keen to give it another go. I was reluctant as I had just came out of a relationship. But he played the long game, he was patient, supportive (I had a horrendous year last year) and basically said all the right things. Telling me if we were together he would be better, telling me he realised wot he lost and he wouldn’t do it again. He would tell me he wanted us to be together, to support me through the hard times, to make me happy, to commit fully.
After about a year I let my guard down… I let him in, at first it was amazing. I could see him anytime I wanted. After work, on the weekends, even for a coffee in the middle of the day. He was so loving at attentive, exactly wot I wished he was all those years ago.
But u guessed it. He’s reverting back to his old ways… I’ve asked to see him midweek after work 4 weeks in a row and there’s always an excuse. As it stands I see him 1 day a week, always a Saturday. We go out have a lovely time, I stay at his. He drops me at home the Sunday and that’s it! His messages have changed… he’s no longer loving and supportive it’s very general how’s ur day been stuff?
I feel like I’ve been sold the dream, and now he has me he’s fully backing off. I know him inside out, I see it happening all over again. Last Valentine’s Day wen I wasn’t invested in us he sent me flowers, bought me a book I had spoke of wanting for a while, I brought this up to him wen I seen him last Saturday. He laughed and said don’t be expecting the same again.
I really don’t know wot his issue is… or maybe it’s my issue. Was I expecting to read the same book and for the ending to be different? I think I may need to speak to him, I’m finding myself increasingly anxious about the situation and where it’s headed. Any advise would be much appreciated. Thank you 