Hi everyone, I'm in desperate need of advice from a female's perspective. Quick info before I explain, I'm a 32 years old, mixed race, portuguese/nigerian man and my girlfriend is an English 37 years old woman. Apart from a one year break, we have been together for 8 years now and currently trying to take the next step to marriage and kids. Only there are few issues preventing us from that. So here it is, my gf won't stop being in contact with an ex. When we started dating we spoke about this together and we both agreed to cut out our ex's. During the 8 years we been together, my gf has consistently got back in contact with one of her ex's and always lied and tried to delete/hide it. Btw he is married and lives in Australia, we live in England. The times I did found out I asked her about it, her explanation was he was a friend, after they broke up they became just good friends for years. Putting aside our agreement, where I couldn't do the same, I proposed if that was the truth, then she should be is friend openly and no more lying or hiding to me. I was ok with it. She replied there was no need, because thinking about it they weren't friends anymore so she would not contact him again. Fast forward to today she as contacted him many times since I just found out. So ladies, please help me understand all this