What would you think if your DP said this?

[whatth]

This morning my DP said "you'll be laughing on the other side of your fave in a minute if you keep laughing at me".

Context is argument where he brought up something that he knew would upset me and I sort of laughed about it because I was angry. I shouldn't have laughed.

It didn't feel great.

I would think that he was threatening me

I would think he was threatening me and I would also think if I pulled him up on it he’d say I couldn’t take a joke or something to that effect

Maybe you can reply “and maybe I’ll talk to the police with the other side of my face”

That's a threat I'd be calling him out on it

Its a threat. He sounds horrible and goady. Do you live together?

It sounds like a threat of physical violence.

This sounds like a horribly unhealthy relationship. He brings up stuff he knows will upset you then insinuates you deserve a smack? Is this a relationship you really want to continue?

It is a threat to hit you. That's what it means. That the person will strike you across the face.
I hope you are OK. It doesn't sound like a good relationship.

Do you live with your boyfriend? Do you have somewhere safe to go in the event your boyfriend carries out his veiled threat?

I'd think he was asking for me to throw him the fuck out! Don't stand for that shit from anyone.

Thats a threat of physical violence.

Was going to ask the same questions as Azerothi.

it didn't feel great OP because deep down you know your DP is abusive. Currently (sounds like) he is restricting himself to verbal and emotional abuse. He is testing your boundaries now. If you had continued laughing at him - and he DID hit you, he would say 'well, I warned you' or alternatively 'look what you made me do'
Take this boundary testing seriously. You could also, if it feels safe, try saying 'no' to him. How he resonds to that will be very telling. How do you feel about trying that? If it doesn't feel safe, again, that is your early warning system ringing alarm bells.

That phrase is a threat that someone is going to hit you.

Well it would depend on context and whether it was said angrily or joking around. Im assuming since you posted this that you felt threatened, so id take it as a threat

This is your warning shot, op. This relationship needs to end.

Do you have DC together, do you live together. Has he done this before or is it the first time.

Thanks everyone. We love together but have no mutual DC. He used to get angry but hasn't in years. Never hit me. I just feel it's never far away if I was to really upset him if that makes sense.

I would see that as a threat of violence against me.

That’s a threat of violence from a man that’s supposed to love you.

I would be very angry but also worried because it's a threat. The fact he started it by saying something he knew would goad you tells me that it is a threat, not just an unfortunate figure of speech. I don't like the sound of him at all OP. People who love and respect you do not deliberately say nor do things to goad those they love and respect. I think that he is testing your boundaries to see how much shit you will tolerate, as others have said. IME, the time to finish it is the very first time they do this, as they only get worse. I'm sorry OP.

Do your children also live in the home with you and him?

@whatth

Thanks everyone. We love together but have no mutual DC. He used to get angry but hasn't in years. Never hit me. I just feel it's never far away if I was to really upset him if that makes sense.

Then you need to leave. He might hit you, he might do worse. Why take the risk. Put yourself at the top of the list and leave. You will be happy, not immediately, but soon.

@whatth

Thanks everyone. We love together but have no mutual DC. He used to get angry but hasn't in years. Never hit me. I just feel it's never far away if I was to really upset him if that makes sense.

If you feel it's never far away it's because it's never far away.

You say you don't have shared DC so I'm assuming you have your own DC. Keep this man away from them.

@whatth

Thanks everyone. We love together but have no mutual DC. He used to get angry but hasn't in years. Never hit me. I just feel it's never far away if I was to really upset him if that makes sense.

Op, YOU have admitted that you believe he would be violent towards you? Why aren't you listening to yourself? What will it take for you to leave this horrible man, when you already know you should?

@whatth

Thanks everyone. We love together but have no mutual DC. He used to get angry but hasn't in years. Never hit me. I just feel it's never far away if I was to really upset him if that makes sense.

So if you feel that, how do you think your smaller children feel? Why choose that life for them and yourself. Get him out!