Totally lost

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I'm in a catch 22. I have a lovely husband. I dont fancy him.and anything sexual gives me the ick. We had sex sober this week and i hated it. If i leave him im financially ruined. Im scared of the unknown having been with him over a 3rd of my life. Im too young to feel so trapped but too scared to be by myself and reek havoc on my babies who love their dad.

Just curious, but are you on any hormonal birth control? (Including a Mirena coil?) It killed my libido. If it's not that, please see a marriage counsellor.

How old are your children? How old are you? When did you lose your libido?

It depends how long you've been feeling this way. I went through a patch of feeling like this but managed to get back to normal. I think dependent on the questions above are how likely the chances are for that.

If you live him, I would certainly go to the GP to rule out any other causes and see if they can do anything about loss of libido. A counsellor may also be able to help.

If you are sure you are just no longer romantically interested in him, you need to have that convo with him.

I got the ick but it never came back. I’m waiting for no fault divorce in April, but he doesn’t know.
Get your ducks in a row and wait to see how it goes, but don’t stay for the kids. You deserve a life.

What you're doing is incredibly unfair and selfish.
Your husband must feel like shit. You're using him.grow some balls and leave him.