Husband 40th soon and he doesn't want to celebrate

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My DH has never been a big fan of birthdays, he is turning 40 soon and isn't interested in doing anything or celebrating - he said he wants it to 'come and go' such a shame :/

I really want to do something nice for him and have a great time.. he's not one for too much fun lol but turning 40 is a big deal!

He doesn't have many friends and said he doesn't want the fuss..

Any ideas?

I might just go ahead and book a restaurant somewhere.. he doesn't want to travel 'far' either.. he isn't giving me much to work with..

Glad you've taken on board peoples' feedback OP. I'm not into my birthday at all, and part of what makes me hate it is that other people constantly ignore my wishes and I have to spend the day pleasing them. I like Indian food, but if I have to have one more "birthday curry" I'll scream.

For my 40th i just went to work and didn’t mention it. I don’t like fuss of any sort. You do you,
and as PPs have said it’s not a shame at all. Just do what your husband asks surely.

So you want to do something that you will enjoy but he will not enjoy?

If you wanted to have a massive party for your own 40th and he arranged nothing would you be happy?

I don't celebrate birthday amd it was no different for my 30th or 40th amd won't be any different for my 50th.

Any ideas?

Yes, respect his wishes.

I've also spent many years having people ignore my prefence for not celebrating brithday. As a result, I've spent a lot of time spending my birthday making other people feel good about the fact they over rode my express wishes and made 'my special day' all about themselves. Im expected to thank them for the effort they made but it's all about them because none of it is what I want.

I never celebrate my birthdays and TBH I'd be fairly pissed if, knowing that, somebody tried to organise something for me. Do nothing. It's what he wants and it is his birthday.

I've also spent many years having people ignore my prefence for not celebrating brithday. As a result, I've spent a lot of time spending my birthday making other people feel good about the fact they over rode my express wishes and made 'my special day' all about themselves. Im expected to thank them for the effort they made but it's all about them because none of it is what I want.

💯💯💯💯 you’ve perfectly articulated how I feel about mine.

Posh home delivery meal and a luxury version of whatever he would buy himself (like amazing slippers or something!?).

@DrinkFeckArseBrick love it, thank you 🙏