He's 31, I'm 50, am I mad??

[mocca]

Me and my husband separated almost a year ago, it's been a rocky road but I've been totally healed for a while now and very happy on my own (I have an 8 year old daughter who we share). I've recently started seeing an amazing guy who is totally in tune with me mentally and physically. He makes me so happy and although I don't want anything serious (and neither does he) right now, we have the most wonderful time together. We also communicate very well and are able to be totally honest about what we want.

But he's 19 years younger than me and I have huge doubts as to whether I should be doing this, even though I'm just living for the moment right now and not concerned about the future. I know society has no problem with older men younger women and it doesn't seem fair but I still feel uncomfortable about this. But I haven't felt happier for ages and wonder if I should just live and let live. Thanks Mocca

Go for it. Not such a huge age gap IMO. If it makes you happy, why not, esp if you aren't looking to get seriously involved

If it makes you happy... Why would you put an end to something that you both clearly enjoy? You lucky thing

There's over 15 years between me and dh. Never found it a problem!

I have an old family friend who is now in her late 80's and is still with her third dh - he is some 19 years younger than her but he is the one dh that has "worked out" and the longest marriage.

Go for it and sod what anyone else thinks - live for the moment

i am jealous.
go for it girl.

congratulations mocca,
you're beraver than me.
i was in a similar situation but i couldnt start the relation. i was scared about the end of it, how i would pick up my own pieces.
i would say go for it. how long have you been together? age is only a number.

go for it, have fun, see what happens

he's in his 30's he should be able to know what he wants by now

Mad?...no!!!
Bloody lucky imo

Merry xmas

Oh fab - you go girl!!

I'm currently being persuaded to go on a date with a french guy who is 14 yrs younger

i proably will

Go for it!, enjoy your happiness I say

Grab your happiness while you can & don't question it too much-just enjoy!!

You lot have so bucked me up! Thanks for encouragement and good luck to anyone else in my situation! x

31 is a perfectly grown-up age. The only thing I would be worried about is if he's never had a serious relationship before you... then I might be a little scared.

hey mocca, don't feel uncomfortable about it, it's great! Enjoy it, everyone deserves to be happy!

And I think society is getting better at accepting this sort of thing too, did you know there is a dating site called toyboy warehouse that only lets you see profiles of men who are younger than you and only lets men see profiles of women older than them? It is hugely popular

(if it's any help at all, i only date men younger than me, and have doe for the last 2 yrs)

whats age at the end of the day!

...And if he lives with his mum...

oh that hasnt stopped me lol

just beenshown this hread...i am seeing omeone who is 31 too and im 50 so i know what you mean

My next door naighbours as I was growing up had a similar age gap - she is now in her 70s, he is in her 50s. Both very happy with each other still.

How long for SantaBaby, is it good?

go for it man.

so did i which is why i clicked it initially