He's 31, I'm 50, am I mad??

[mocca]

Me and my husband separated almost a year ago, it's been a rocky road but I've been totally healed for a while now and very happy on my own (I have an 8 year old daughter who we share). I've recently started seeing an amazing guy who is totally in tune with me mentally and physically. He makes me so happy and although I don't want anything serious (and neither does he) right now, we have the most wonderful time together. We also communicate very well and are able to be totally honest about what we want.

But he's 19 years younger than me and I have huge doubts as to whether I should be doing this, even though I'm just living for the moment right now and not concerned about the future. I know society has no problem with older men younger women and it doesn't seem fair but I still feel uncomfortable about this. But I haven't felt happier for ages and wonder if I should just live and let live. Thanks Mocca

love and friends is absolute crap all they do on there is have a few whingers in the forum who have been there windiung each other up since the year dot and the dating bit is rubbish

zippi, guess who is texting me, trying to get back inm y good books?

and the guardian is rubbish unless you live in london

Oh well..sorry I mentioned them, lol! Each to their own. Presume you have tried match.com?

i'm a pof..i do have a friend off the gurdian actually ...we chat on msn..we sort of got past the initial bit and just say we are going to meet up sometime but we have got on to the crying on each others shoulder stage so he might some time be a one night stand or just a mate ..he is 34 i think..we've been talking since july i think

hi pixiepip,
you sound really realistic and i appreciate your thoughts, i am easily hurt kind, because of the reasons you mentioned i couldnt take the risk to start a similar relation, i was so afraid how i would recover at the end, and i am not alone, i have nearly 7 yr old dd who i must consider as well. because when i get hurt she will be effected as well i am afraid.
looking for the suitable men; i thought of going on dating sites but i am scared to be seen by some people i know-as i told in one of my previous posts.
i really cant put my picture there and say i am this and that kind of person and looking for this and that kind of person. i feel like i cant do it, and my social life is so restricted, and i prefer my own friendship more because of the past bad experiences. so its hard for me to find someone new, suitable for me.
mocca, i still apreciate what you doing, you braver than me, taking the chance, but pixiepip talking sense too, dont get hurt please.
x

good for you be happy and enoy!

noranora- I do understand your view too! Some dating sites will allow you to post without a photo, but not many men reply to those entries!
Maybe you could go out and do things you enjoy, such as a class, or learning something new, and make friends, instead of just looking for a man? New friends would have other friends, and you might get to know lots of people. Don't judge everyone based on previous experiences- give people a chance. Good luck!

pixiepip,
thanks for your advices
i wasnt actually looking for a man, because i came out a really bad relationship, and it took so long to recover ourselves.
then that young very handsome-atractive man came along and i felt confused for a long time.
so instead of doing something wrong i thought i have to go realistically (i still hesitate about the young man though).
i feel my dd needs a father, too.
i myself had enough of relationships, marriages but now i feel like a decent man would be good for me too.
x

Just wanted to say good luck noranora and that there are decent men out there and I hope you find one. Things are more complicated with a young child (I know, mine is nearly 8) but you'd be pleasantly surprised at the number of men who have kids too and understand. Happy new year to you all.

plenty of men without kids who understand too