No.
And I'd hope that given they were doing it to make themselves happy, that they'd be sympathetic to how it would make me feel as if it had destroyed mine.
Its so utterly disrespectful and dishonest to enter a relationship with those feelings and expect your partner years down the line to just go along with it or else they are somehow not loving enough.
Thats abusive and controlling.
You enter a marriage based on mutual respect. I don't think you can maintain that if the goalposts are moved to change someones identity in this way.
When my brother transitioned, the common phrase was 'well he's still your brother' - which missed the point that they weren't. They weren't the same person. They were asking to be treated in a completely different way and for me to respond accordingly. They were asking for me to erase my history and retell it as if I'd had the experience of growing up with a sister. Which I didn't.
I was being asked to be complicit and an accessory to a fantasy even if that came at my expense. Because otherwise you are somehow 'a bad transphobic person'.
The answer is no because of the lack of mutual respect and where the demands lie. Who has the power and who doesn't? Its not women who are told whats going to happen and then have to decide after their partner has already made that decision.
If your marriage terms were as man and wife (which most vows will state in some form if its a heterosexual relationship) then its a contractual breech.
Its not something that gets put up for renegotiation by one party years down the line.