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What the hell is a 'Breeding kink'?

83 replies

SickOfItNoww · 05/01/2022 16:31

I keep seeing it on Tiktok Confused

I mean, they all make jokes about having this then freaking out when they really do get pregnant so is it like a fantasy thing? For getting pregnant?

I really don't understand and don't wanna Google for obvious reasons.

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SlidingInto2022sDMs · 05/01/2022 17:58

Thought I was the only one.

ineedsun · 05/01/2022 17:59

@Footnote

Sometimes I really wonder what people were turned on by before the internet.
🤣🤣🤣
Magnited · 05/01/2022 17:59

It’s more subtle than some posters’ explanations.

Sex has become anaesthetised by porn. It gets brought alive again by the tangible fear of getting pregnant or an STD.

It’s very grim.

LadyJJ · 05/01/2022 18:02

Its probably one of the most common kinks/fantasy things, and usually is just dirty talk between partners rather than anything else, like a lot of things are.
Like other pps have said, to do with unprotected sex, c*m, and pregnancy, could be combined with sex with strangers or (urgh) racial fetishism as well, but they are not all the same thing.

Divebar2021 · 05/01/2022 18:12

There are plenty of women with rape fantasies… how is this considered “grim”? Why does anyone care what other people are turned on by?

TooBigForMyBoots · 05/01/2022 18:18

Every day's a school day on Mumsnet.🤓

Palmfrond · 05/01/2022 21:00

I totally get it. It’s earthy and primal, maybe more one for the blokes though.
Personally I found my wife very attractive when she was pregnant and we had a lot of sex. I find pregnant women in general quite attractive, both because it’s a jolly prosperous sort of sight, and also because I find it sexy. In my wife’s words (I’m far too dainty); you know they’ve been proper fucked. It keys you in to your biology, which is ultimately what sex is about.
I know some men find it repulsive. I think that’s really unfortunate and despite myself I’ll judge them for being a bit unmanly and vaginaphobes, but to each their own, I guess.
As far as tiktok memes goes, though, Christ preserve us.

FocacciaFingerer · 05/01/2022 22:42

@TooBigForMyBoots

Every day's a school day on Mumsnet.🤓
It is!
chineybumps · 05/01/2022 22:51

@Ozanj

It’s usually just unprotected sex in a ‘deep’ missionary position.
This is literally the best and most accurate answer that I've seen. This is all it really is especially in porn. It tends to be some sort of cuckold where the wife sleeps with a black man (guess it's part of the fetish). I don't understand how it's a thing on tiktok tho
Lookingoutside · 06/01/2022 00:45

‘It's very on the line of being inappropriate to me and giving me really weird vibes.’

Try not to think about it then. Definitely stop posting about it.

Jengnr · 06/01/2022 05:03

Is it just another excuse for blokes to not wear condoms?

Echofallen · 06/01/2022 12:58

One of my friends had a long standing thing with a guy (who later turned out to have a gf) and he told her during one of their sexy chats that he'd "Get her pregnant". She's getting a bit too old for babies but seemed to think this remark showed interest, so I told her about the kink, that some people get off on the idea of knocking a woman up. Even if they don't actually want kids in reality.

BaronessBomburst · 06/01/2022 13:01

@SpindleyCrow Grin

HelenGraham2121 · 06/01/2022 13:10

In my wife’s words (I’m far too dainty); you know they’ve been proper fucked.

If only falling pregnant meant you had been "properly fucked". Unfortunately it happens whether you had an orgasm or not, whether you enjoyed it or not, and in some cases, whether there evenbeen full penetrative sex or not.

HelenGraham2121 · 06/01/2022 13:12

As an aside, I once had a guy, a couple of months into a casual relationship, say he wanted to have a baby with me.

Some person thought it was a breeding fetish.

Turned out he thought he'd get UK residence if he had a child with a UK national/resident.Confused

69Mum69 · 18/04/2022 14:55

It would seem most people havent put logical thought to it. The whole poin of sex is to reproduce, hence, having a breeding kink is the most logical and beneficial kin to have for the human race.

NeverDropYourMooncup · 18/04/2022 15:47

Guess the money shots just don't do it for them.

Shiteshow100 · 18/04/2022 16:27

Why wouldn't you get turned on by possibly pro creating with someone you love?
Most of the people with this 'kink' are actually in serious relationships, it's not about casual sex or getting pregnant by a stranger.

NewandNotImproved · 18/04/2022 17:21

Well ‘69Mum69’ thanks for searching for threads about breeding kinks and reviving this shit from January. 🙄

Subb · 20/06/2022 00:51

Purely my opinion here, I'm no medical proffesional.

Can gaurentee you it's not as bad as you seem to think.

I have the breeding kink and I personally only allow showing so, if I am partnered and actually want a child with the person. So far, there's only been one person I trust with that who I have shown that too. People with the breeding kink don't just share it with random strangers and want to get impregnated or impregnate them.

And anyone that does and does it just to get pregnant, is not a good human being.

For decent people, The desire is there, but reality sets in quick that it can totally happen.

And you don't want that with someone you barely know.

As for the breeding kink itself, it is the deep biological desire to be impregnated or impregnate during sex. For those who can be impregnated, mostly the feeling of insemination is what drives the core desire. It's similar to a blissful feeling, and same for the one doing the impregnating; cuming inside someone is what their desire is. And that person may be purely one person that they trust. Or they may have the desire as a whole, and just not talk about it. Sometimes the desire itself isn't very respected outside of the community, and sometimes even in it.

Judgement is quite common, but many don't understand.

Me and my partner never have used protection, and we probably never will, though we're somewhat fine to conceive children. Obviously, there is a point where you stop this but that's usually why so many parents end up having 6-9 kids; a unnoticed breeding kink. I am quite self aware, so I limit my urge unless I know for sure my partner's okay with it. It's no the idea, it's also keeping a part of you with them forever, literally.

There are a very rare amount of few people with the breeding kink, that like the idea of getting someone pregnant that they don't know from a bar of soap. If this does occur however, usually, birth control is discussed and confirmed before anything. If not, doesn't happen, unless they're reckless and don't care, then it does which leads to an STI sometimes.

There's also the darker side to this which some people can take complete advantage of. No matter if male or female, this general urge is quite vulnerable for us, and someone example a stranger, once figured out can take complete advantage of it. So it's really important to stay on alert if ever with a one night stand or someone you don't know as much as, this desire, could slip out mid sex, and it does happen.

Awful consequences if nobody is on birth control and you don't want a sexual assault or anything so people with the kink, if engaging in bk parties or solely need to stay alert, and safe and protected.

That said though breeding kinks are quite enjoyable once you have a partner who supports it and shares it with you.

It's the idea and desire to have a child with the person you love, and also the "risk" of it, especially without birth control. But for this you need to trust the person wholeheartedly.

Probably odd for anyone who doesn't have the kink and I get that. But it's close to people who openly discuss trying to concieve a child, just, with the kink and not as much conversation and boring planning around it. It's simply, fun.

Breeding is a safe kink as long as you practise it safely with someone you trust completely, as there are unsafe ways to build this kink too, women can lie, they may not have birth control and especially in the one nighter community, "accidents", sometimes are also fueled by someone's miscommunicated kink.

I have no issue with both the idea and the reality of my partner getting me pregnant, over again if they deem it what they too want. He also doesn't mind. As long as I satisfy, and am satisfied that's enough.

I also have no issue with abstaining or deciding not with sex, the kink never rules over my life.

But me and my partner have solid communication so I strongly advise anyone interested in this, to have these core wants;

•if wanting to breed/have a baby, converse with person first. If agreed, share that. And, well, y'know, breed😃

•if not wanting to fall pregnant, use an alternative birth control, rod, pill, Mirena etc. But, still talk about your kink. Best not to engage if not on birth control, else you risk pregnancy. Some though can't get pregnant at a point in their cycle so can use this form of bc.

•make sure you trust completely the person you share your kink with, if they don't like the idea, means they don't share the kink.

•trust yourself as well as your partner. It takes guts to openly express your base desires in your most vulnerable intimate moments. Go you.

So, safe, legal and consentual sex with a breeding kink, is usually what actually goes on in our community.

With respect, everyone's comment about how it's disgusting, really need to read up on their kinks, there's a lot more out there that are worse off then ours. ❤️😊

We just like the idea of having babies.

And, some prefer to actually concieve those babies and submit to their partner regardless of gender.
And yes we breed like rabbits 😌🐇

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What the hell is a 'Breeding kink'?
Namechangefrustration · 20/06/2022 00:53

I think its just people who want to make a baby. Its natural. Many people on Mumsnet have been in that position.

Phrenologistsfinger · 20/06/2022 01:20

Infertility and/or IVF would cure anyone with this affliction - puts you right off the whole blimmin’ thing!

Hillrunning · 20/06/2022 06:19

OP tiktok produces content for you. If you 'keep seeing' something it is because you have somehow shown an interest in that content by either watching videos in full, liking them, saving them, searching a term or following certain people. Just stop showing an interest in stuff and you won't keep seeing it.

ShortySara · 20/06/2022 08:18

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1stjjohnnymac · 15/11/2022 16:01

Never been interested in "Breeding" even though I'm not fond of condoms but have been asked on dating sites a couple of times about breeding 😬