Asking height and weight

[SandyBut]

This just happened to me - not on a trad OLD site. That’s weird isn’t it?

Its a bit much asking for weight.. too far. Ive asked people for their height but only because im tall and for me personally i couldnt date someone shorter than me makes me feel masculine. Happily now snuggled upto someone the same height. Its quite nice living life out of heels

Some women may ask height,
Never heard of a woman asking a man’s height AND clothing side , like men do to women

Obviously never happens then

Many dating apps/site have height and body type as basic information that you can add to your profile.

I like to know people's height as I don't want to date a guy shorter than me. I also don't wan to date someone who is really overweight (as I am into healthy eating and exercising).

I would definitely add your height to your profile and maybe rather than your actual weight which is too intrusive I would put something about your general body shape (usually sites/apps let you choose descriptions like 'fit', 'curvy'. 'slim'...)

So many people use old pictures of themselves or use clever angles to hide their body shape. I have met men who looked nothing like their profile pictures and it is really frustrating and misleading.

If the pictures already show clearly your full face and figure though then the guy who is asking you these questions is being creepy....

Being a twat about someone's looks ia unacceptable. However, dating is the one time it's acceptable to have your preferences and stick to them.
I would never want to date someone overweight- straight upbdeal breaker for me. Don't care if that's callous. it's my naked body that's going to have to be next to him.
There is a world of difference between being unkind to someone in the street because you don't like the way they look, dumping someone who you already have a deep bond with because illness or accident changed thier appearance (both not nice) and not wanting to date someone you dont fancy- completely normal and necessary even.

@OutOfSite

*Some women may ask height, Never heard of a woman asking a man’s height AND clothing side , like men do to women*

Obviously never happens then

Not sayinb never but rare enough that forums don’t seem to be full of men saying women are asking their clothing size and height

That's to do with differences between men and women. I know men that have been dismissed because their height and/or weight are 'unacceptable', they just don't bitch about it on forums. And if they do, they tend to get a load of women jumping down their throats going 'But! But! But!'

@znaika

Being a twat about someone's looks ia unacceptable. However, dating is the one time it's acceptable to have your preferences and stick to them. I would never want to date someone overweight- straight upbdeal breaker for me. Don't care if that's callous. it's my naked body that's going to have to be next to him. There is a world of difference between being unkind to someone in the street because you don't like the way they look, dumping someone who you already have a deep bond with because illness or accident changed thier appearance (both not nice) and not wanting to date someone you dont fancy- completely normal and necessary even.

And whilst I agree totally that attractions important I think many men have damaged their ability to be attracted to anything but what they pollute their minds with on the internet Might be fine when they first meet their gf who’s slim and young but life brings changes and that attitude is a recipe for disaster Not say everyone blows up and gets huge but people change There’s unreasonable pressure on womens appearance. Everything from looking youthful to slim to breast size butt blah blah blah according to what ‘he’wants . Then men loose their minds when a woman had one requirement for height!

@OutOfSite

That's to do with differences between men and women. I know men that have been dismissed because their height and/or weight are 'unacceptable', they just don't bitch about it on forums. And if they do, they tend to get a load of women jumping down their throats going 'But! But! But!'

Wow are many many forum of men bitching about women . You obviously havnt heard about the mgtow or incel forums Once again , men can have a million requirement . Women must look youthful , feminine , slim ….:: etc etc etc

But Goidness help any woman who wants a tall guy lol

Well if they're super picky they won't get anyone will they?

@OutOfSite

That's to do with differences between men and women. I know men that have been dismissed because their height and/or weight are 'unacceptable', they just don't bitch about it on forums. And if they do, they tend to get a load of women jumping down their throats going 'But! But! But!'

This makes me thing of the research about dates where womens biggest fear wad being attacked and mens biggest fear is the woman being fat

@Tealtalk but women are just as bad. They do dismiss men based on height and weight.

@OutOfSite

That's to do with differences between men and women. I know men that have been dismissed because their height and/or weight are 'unacceptable', they just don't bitch about it on forums. And if they do, they tend to get a load of women jumping down their throats going 'But! But! But!'

Oh but they do bitch about it on forums, Reddit is full of men complaining about this exact problem!

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with complaining about it, but don’t pretend it’s one sided.

@Tealtalk so you think it's ok for women to be picky but not men?

@PepsiArcade yep, fair point, I have seen it on Reddit.

I just think it's unfair to paint us as poor women being asked about our height and weight by those nasty men, when plenty of women do exactly the same.

@OutOfSite

That's to do with differences between men and women. I know men that have been dismissed because their height and/or weight are 'unacceptable', they just don't bitch about it on forums. And if they do, they tend to get a load of women jumping down their throats going 'But! But! But!'

What are you on about? Men bitch about women being height obsessed ALL THE TIME. On forums, in articles, in person. It’s a very well publicised and discussed issue. If women were also routinely asking men their weight, it would be similarly complained about and discussed. It’s not. Which isn’t to say that it never happens, but indicates that it isn’t particularly common practice.

@MeSanniesareBrannies I didn't say they never bitch about it, they obviously do more than I realised.

@OutOfSite What? Yes, you did. You said “they just don't bitch about it on forums”. Direct quote. I responded to that saying that they do.

@MeSanniesareBrannies I know men that have been dismissed because their height and/or weight are 'unacceptable', they just don't bitch about it on forums. And if they do, they tend to get a load of women jumping down their throats going 'But! But! But!'

You missed a bit. 'And if they do'.

[quote OutOfSite]@Tealtalk so you think it's ok for women to be picky but not men?[/quote]
No I think people should be upfront with weight requirements cause that can fluctuate especially for women with hormonal or pregnancy changes
Although your experience may be thag women are picky I think men are far more concerned with womens appearance than vice Versa . I think porn shows this perfectly , some women do consume but nowhere in the numbers men do and the focus is almost always on the female body

😂😂I'm sure there's forums asking rate my profile for dating apps.

Some guys are like, I have a good profile, I'm handsome, good job but I can't get any matches.
Help!
Then you look at the profile, and they're nothing but a complete gimp 😂😂.

[quote MeSanniesareBrannies]@OutOfSite What? Yes, you did. You said “they just don't bitch about it on forums”. Direct quote. I responded to that saying that they do.[/quote]
Yes you did And your outright wrong . Also places where men police womens bodies are incredibly high on the internet . Womens bodies are under content scrutiny

@Tealtalk whatever 🤷🏻‍♀️

For what's it worth, I agree with your last comment. In fact, I agree with most of what you've said. Just pointing out that women can be as bad.

You disregarded the majority of my initial comment to you, and it’s import, but let’s parse this.

You: they just don’t bitch about it on forums. And if they do XXX.

Me: Men bitch about it constantly.

You: I never said they didn’t.

Me: yes, you did. Here’s a direct quote.

You: I said they didn’t, but if they did. Therefore, I never said they didn’t.

Okay, then.

It’s not odd, more direct. I have been asked if I look like my profile, and I normally send some more candid and probably less flattering photos so they can see that I do look like my profile! I don’t mind being asked my size ether-no point in not being honest, it’s only OLD and if they go, another one will fill place soon enough. Some people are really good at making themselves look great with filters-and it is just rubbish when you meet them!