Women want emotional support from a man but men want.....

[Inth3know]

Having a conversation with a friend today and we were discussing what men and women want/need from each. She insisted women want emotional support from her man but what does a man want from his woman? Or look for in a woman? This does not have to be in a marriage.

I like emotional support from a man and I would not continue the relationship if I was not getting this. But what does a man want? I should probably know this, it has got me thinking anyhow.

I've found it's wonderful having a committed relationship when you start a new relationship in later life. No kids, drudgery, generally more money and less need for real emotional support.

Would I ever live with my DP, fuck no. Not doing that again. But we are able to give what each other needs without a shit load of stuff getting in the way. Mostly laughing if I'm honest.

I need less from a man now than I needed in my younger days and him me. In fact, we need very little from each other.

Men aren't a monolith. Neither are women. You can't just say "men want X" or "women want X" and it be true.

You must be new around here.

@housemaus

Men aren't a monolith. Neither are women. You can't just say "men want X" or "women want X" and it be true.

So much pointless generalising on this thread - men don't know how to do emotional support, men don't do X Y Z.

By saying that and acting as though that's true you strengthen the patriarchal, toxic masculinity bullshit that means men feel it's okay to act that way and stops younger men learning that they don't have to suppress the elements of themselves that aren't 'what men do'.

My 6 year old cousin, upset because he got told by another boy at nursery that he wasn't allowed to play in the play kitchen cos cooking is for girls. Where's he learned that? If he hears some variation of "X is what boys do, you shouldn't do Y it's for girls" for the next 12 years, what kind of man will he be at 18? Someone who believes those things.

So maybe start seeing women and men as faceted individuals and stop perpetuating (and accepting) the stereotypes.

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@AssignedBlobbyAtBirth

Sex, clean house, meals provided

Ah well, 2 out 3 ain't bad...I'm useless at housework

The PP saying sex, food, pandering, home appliance, cleaner, mommy, stroke theit ego are 100% spot on.

I’d also add an therapist and someone to always blame whatever is going wrong in their lives.
And take their anger out on.

My exH wanted sex on tap, and someone to do all the housework and childcare.

I want an actual partner, someone I connect with, someone to offer emotional support, to work with me as a team. And sex, I want sex too.

My now-DP (male), wants the same.