Needy husband driving me mad

[MummyToni27]

So life is pretty busy for me. I’m a full time mum/house wife with two wonderful children 6 & 8 and also run a full time business. Granted DH pitches in now and then with house work but most of the time it’s done by me. He works 3 12hr shifts a week monday-wednesday.
But what is grating me most lately is his constant need for physical attention. He has always been like this but i think it is getting to me most now that i so busy.
I could be in the middle of cooking dinner and he comes in for a grope and a full on snog fest. Cleaning the toilets and he comes in and locks the door thinking he is going to grab himself a quicky. He constantly needs to be touched and i just don’t have it in me. I sit down to have a rest and he straight away wants my undeniable attention and touchy affection. Sometimes it can be very inappropriate where he will stick his hand up my top when the kids are there. It is just a massive turn off.
Please can anyone else relate??

It's really fucking disturbing for a man to feel so aroused by the idea he is entitled to touch his partner's tits even with children in the room. It's a power play in a way.

His behaviour is far from normal or acceptable. It's gross. It's icky. It shows a complete lack of respect.

Women sell themselves all the time be it in a strip club, reality TV or Instagram. They are giving men the impression that they are all just as horny as they are.

But please don't fall into the trap of blaming women for men's behaviour, like you did here. Especially if you've got daughters.

I couldn't be with a man who groped me like a fucking teenager trying his luck while their parents are out. It's embarrassing and cringey as well as treating you like a piece of meat when you clearly aren't reciprocating.

Lots of boak from me.

I am in a similar situation op. My husband is constantly needing physical affection and even hugging all the time! The other day I said look why the constant need for hugs? I’ve got work to do and dinner to cook!

The thing is if we are having a nice hug then he’ll go for the arse grab and go in for the snog. I don’t trust him any more with hugging and have just stopped most physical affection because of this, him always thinking it’s going to lead somewhere else. When he comes over and I know it’s hugging time I just go off in the opposite direction!

We had a chat yesterday actually and I said you’ll need to get that trust back and that if he wants a hug I don’t want him to try and turn it onto an opportunity for sex. Let’s see!

My dh doesn’t try anything in front of the kids though even he realises there’s a boundary here.

Have a chat with op and tell him it’s not ok, you’re not putting up with it, if he does it again infront if the kids then this is absolutely not acceptable and you’ll be thinking of this marriage going to survive. Also give him a daily to do list with lots of diy and cleaning. Sounds like he has too much time and energy on his hands.

That is one of the sad things about this situation Beachlovingirl - opportunities for reciprocal acts of affection are lost because the man cannot resist turning it into an opportunity for sex .... how sad is that?

My OH's behaviour was caused by a neuro-degenerative illness, and, just at the time when he needed my loving support, I found myself drawing away because I had reached my grope threshold and could take no more.

I'm sorry you're going through this. My exH was the same, lazy with everything whilst I did absolutely everything for the home and family. He used to grope me constantly, couldn't walk past me without grabbing me, used to nag me for attention and sulked and gave me the silent treatment if I said no to sex.

In the end I couldn't bare to be touched by him. My skin crawled and I would tense up if he just rested his hand on me. I hope this goes away if I ever meet anyone else but fear I let it go on for so long I'm unfixable and will always hate being touched.

Good luck to you. Don't let it go on too long as I did, you'll feel worse and worse.