Daughter doesn't always want to go to her das

[Michk444]

My 10 year old had not enjoyed her last few visits and is with him now for her 1st Xmas (she didn't want to go, on the phone every day to me really sad). We split up before she was 1, tried to speak to him about some of his comments etc making her sad but he won't listen.
She doesn't want to go for xmas again and think it may be difficult to get her to see him at his. He lives in Jersey (I'm in the uk), she's married with a 6 year old.
I don't want to force her, say advice? Her dad won't entertain any conversation that may imply his behaviour doesn't help

No don't force her to go. It's very tricky but if she's not down the road & easily able to come back to you, you both need to listen to her.
Showing that you hear her & respect her wishes will be great for her confidence & trust in you. Ignoring her wishes will undermine her.
Sorry it's a tricky one & you're caught in the middle but you need to stand up for her if that's what's she asking for.

I'm considering therapy for my DD she loves her dad and wants to see him but doesn't like leaving me. She gets rage tantrums when she comes back and I am struggling to cope.

Perhaps you can legally get therapy before more visits or something similar.

Not sure if the kids have more of a day after 10.

My DD is 8 and we separated before she was 1

Should say

Kids have more of a SAY