How much time do you and your DH spend together?

[moremoony]

I’m interested to know what does your DH do in the evening? How much time do you spend together? My DH disappears every eve after tea to a different room to sit on his computer. What is your evening routine? Do you just amuse yourself in the evening? Spend every eve together? I’m wondering what the point of being in a relationship is if I’m by myself every evening. Maybe it’s normal though?

I spent 12 years in a relationship with a man like this. When DC went to bed he would go upstairs and sit on the bed using the ipad. When I went upstairs, he would go have a bath and then go downstairs. We never went to bed at the same time. It was lonely, so I'd spend most evenings chatting to different friends on the phone.

I look back and regret staying for so long.

I'm now with a different DP and we spend all our time together (we don't live with each other) so naturally have a couple of nights alone, which is equally as lovely.

We agree a certain amount of screens after dinner then we hook up again and watch some of whatever TV series we are watching .

Honestly that sounds super depressing. My DH and I WFH together, in the same room except for when we have meetings. We spend evenings together too. Usually watch TV together but sometimes might e.g. have him playing a computer game while I read, but I'm the same room. Obviously sometimes one or other of us would be out but that's our 'normal' evening together. I don't understand why you'd be in a relationship with someone if you don't both want to spend your free time together as a default.

I'd find what you do stifling. I couldn't stand spending that much time with one person.

I agree @ufucoffee I would find that suffocating.
I love dh dearly (we've been together over 30 years) but we are individual people with lots of interests and friends. I think that adds to our relationship rather than taking away from it.

As little as possible. He has one room downstairs and I have the other. He sits aimlessly flicking through the TV and or gaming every single night and weekend. I can't imagine anything more boring tbh. We don't eat together either, except Sundays.

It doesn’t matter if it’s normal, it needs to suit you.
I’m quite a recluse and sometimes have to make myself spend time with people, including my lovely DH. Relationships need to be maintained and fed. Compromise is key.
Work out what you’d ideally like and ask for it.

Nearly every evening together, meal, couch, sex, bed.
Interspersed with social events outside the home.

We hardly communicate at all during the working day. CBA saying how r u, etc 🤨

Sounds a bit lonely op. There has to be a point to be together.