Brief backstory: he has a very very strained relationship with her. She can’t get on with anybody- friends, neighbours, everyone. She picks fights with them all. She is also very self centred and manipulative. When he moved out of home in his mid 20s she bawled to him and said how can you leave me. When we moved 45 mins away for better schools she bawled again and said how can you leave me.
She makes his life a misery. She is blocked on his phone but she batters him with emails constantly. Every day. We rarely see her but she is constantly asking to see us.
So then Xmas came up. None of us want to suffer her presence and her narky little comments. So he said we wouldn’t go to her for Xmas day. She is now barraging him with emails saying how could you be so cruel, bringing up his deceased father saying what would he think of you, etc etc. Dh was up til the early hours upset.
He is adamant that if he tries to go NC she will just show up at our door. I’ve wondered if she would attempt suicide- which she did when a previous partner left her.
Please help me help him cope with it and deal with her. He is so upset today.