I am really worried about how the last couple of years has affected my relationship with my husband. I wondered if anyone else had found this.
I am much more inclined to be very cautious covid wise and it is causing a lot of conflict. This week my husband has developed cold symptoms including coughing quite a lot in the evenings and at night. He refused to take a day off work for a PCR but did take lateral flows each day which were negative. I persuaded him to take a PCR on his way home from work yesterday and we are still waiting for the results.
My son had a football match this morning and was desperate to play. Previously I have not allowed him to do so if any of us are waiting for results. (I know the rules permit him to play but it seems selfish to me). I was really convinced the results would come through any minute as all our other results have been quick, including one for a close contact the previous day and so made the deal with him that we would head off to his game but not go anywhere near anyone unless we are received the negative result on time. Unfortunately we did not and so he did not play. When I explained what had happened to my husband he was furious. He thinks I am being ridiculous and should not have mentioned it to anyone and just let him play. He has yelled at me and accused me of only being interested in covid and loving the current situation. It couldn't be further from the truth. I hate everything about the way we are living at the moment, not least walking on eggshells trying to appease different people with different views. I have tried to be more relaxed about my personal rules lately as he is struggling quite a lot with his mental health, but I can't abandon my principles entirely. He thinks I am the only one behaving this rigidly so I am just looking for a bit of perspective really. What would others have done in this situation?