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Amazing guy but very immature

32 replies

cloudsandrain21 · 13/12/2021 21:11

I could get past this but if we have a disagreement he hates it that I don't agree with him. Goes in a mood.
He's very off with me lately so I ask him and he says I'm not getting in to this.
I asked him then if he actually wants to be with me. His reply was walk away then, but if I walk away he will beg me back.

He can be manipulative but I call him out on it. Where he struggles because I don't think he has dated some one like me.

But telling me to walk away is that him using reverse Psychology on me or it that what he wants me to do?

I realise this is very immature. He's amazing in other ways. Just got no skills when it comes to discussing or disagreements

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AttilaTheMeerkat · 13/12/2021 21:47

Amazing he most certainly is not. Just how low is your relationship bar here to declare him as such at all?. You seem very young too, perhaps early 20s?.

Walk away from this abusive relationship now before you become further over invested in it and or hurt emotionally. He will continue to denigrate and bash your already too low boundaries here.

This is who he is, he is not for changing and you are not a rehab centre for such a badly raised man. He does this because he can and he feels entitled to do so.

cushioncovers · 13/12/2021 21:49

You've got two choices op either put up with or leave. . Imagine having kids with him.

AttilaTheMeerkat · 13/12/2021 21:52

What did you learn about relationships when you were growing up ?

Abuse is not about communication or a perceived lack of, it’s about power and control. He really does want absolute over you here and he is playing you like a violin.

If this is how this relationship is after a mere two years, then just imagine what the next two are going to be like. Yes, more of the same from him to you.

Nov910 · 13/12/2021 22:05

@Gilda152 is totally right. My ex was amazing in ways..if he wasn’t I wouldn’t have put up with the relationship so long. But communication is huge and will be a dealbreaker for you further down the line. I thought I could handle his sulky ways..actually what I learnt was it’s a huge lack of respect and love towards your feelings .

Closetbeanmuncher · 13/12/2021 23:00

He can be manipulative

Manipulative is not amazing...

Just got no skills when it comes to discussing or disagreements

It's not lack of skills it's called shutting you down to getting his way. (aka further manipulation)

As much as you seem to want to, you can't polish a turd OP.

Closetbeanmuncher · 13/12/2021 23:01

*shutting you down to get his way

Justmuddlingalong · 13/12/2021 23:09

Struggling with your emotions and being an arsehole aren't mutually exclusive.
When you walk away and he calls you back, keep walking.

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