Is it okey to ask my friends to talk to me less about their relationships?

[Yeswhatno]

I’m probably BU, but I really just can’t take it.

I’m lifelong single, will be the rest of my life, not my choice.
I go cycles of making my peace with it and then being excruciatingly lonely.

Right now I just can’t listen to people being happy, cutesy thing they do together.
Or griping about little things like dishes or whatever.
It’s just so hard and isolating to listen to them.

I don’t really know what to do, can I say something, or should I try and take a little bit of distance?

I think you need to see a therapist. Your idea that you are meant to be permanently single because men "don't want people like me" as well as the fact that you can't be happy for your friends indicate some fairly deep issues that it would probably be wise to address.

@PurpleSneakers

I appreciate what you’re saying about not giving up hope, I do .
I don’t want to go to details, because it’s really sensitive subject, but I really am not what majority of people look for in a relationship.
So it’s easier for me to just learn to accept that.

I’ve always found relationship talk mind-numbingly boring and never understood why people can’t figure their own shit out.

And yet here you are, posting in a sub-forum that is actually called 'Relationships', where people come to get help figuring their own shit out. Are you just here to sneer?

YANBU and they are being a bit insensitive, but maybe the problem is this group dynamic where they wind each other up, talking about their relationships. Can you meet them one-on-one more, and keep the conversation away from partners/children?

And Definitely be open to making new friends, with people who have more in their lives than just their boring bloody relationship?

@Funnylittlefloozie

No, not at all.
What makes you say that?

There are all kinds of relationships.
Not that it’s any of your business, but I got some really great advice to how to deal with my mother.
Tips for single life.
MN once helped me see my friend wasn’t being a true friend. Etc.
Usefull place. Minus the people who purposefully misunderstands what has been said.

One-on-one is a pretty good idea.
I think I’ll try and see if the one who is my oldest friend would like to see me alone more often.
We have most in common and she is the only one who is childfree, so we have a little bit more understanding I’d say.

Also the more hobby d friends does sound like a good idea.

Thank you for those who were understanding and helpfull!

I agree that one on one is probably better then it's easier to change the topic. If you go out as a group, maybe go to the cinema or theatre or similar and then the chat will be focused in that.