I have to say it somewhere… I HATE HER ARGHHHHH

[Aaa456789]

Does anyone else have a MIL who has to much to say. Thinks she knows it all, but doesn’t realise how ridiculous she looks wile spouting all wrong information?

I can’t say it to anyone in RL, I visit as less as I can but yet she still infuriates me the sh*t she comes out with!!

Is this a normal MIL issue? Are they all the same?

How will I survive 🤣

[Pascal80]

I love my MIL. She is a 65 year old hippy lady who spends most of her time travelling in her campervan. She is a ray of sunshine in my life and I love her.

[Aaa456789]

This thread wasn’t meant to upset anyone. If you have a great MIL happy days I’m so jealous! Wish mine was like yours.

As for the comments of we all may become MILS one day we need to check ourselves blah blahYes your right I will be a mil one day but then I won’t be a selfish old rag so technically I won’t be in the sh*t mil category! I apologise if I hit a nerve 🤷🏻‍♀️

[Bootsnshoes]

I love mine. She is amazing. My own mum is so far away and MIL is just so good to me. In fairness, my SILs worship my mum too so there are plenty of excellent MILs about.

[Imabitbusyatthemoment]

My MIL is a spiteful old cow. Haven’t seen her for three years since her last episode of bad behaviour which she is still being too stubborn to move on from. AND IT IS BLISS. I’d be happy never to see her again.

It does however make me (marginally) sad that she shows so little interest in her grandchildren. I would have loved to have had a lovely MIL. I had a boyfriend with a lovely mum, wish she had come with DH.

[Cyrilgoggin]

I don't hate anyone, but there are people I dislike. I don't have a MIL any more, but I liked the one I did have.

[NutCheeseBag]

@Shehasadiamondinthesky

I'm a great MiL. My son and DiL chose to live with me and I never interfere or get in their way. We all get on great and if I disapprove of something I keep my mouth shut.

Me too. And I run a business with my daughter in law.

[Iamkmackered1979]

My first mil actually hated me, everything I said she said the opposite to the point she was being really ridiculous. Her daughter is no better but then her son is an evil peice of work so the apple didn’t fall far for either of them.

However my ex mum is just lovely, really kind and we still get on despite us being separated there has never been animosity and she’s even kind to my new partner. Really lucky to have her in my life.

current boyfriend mum is wonderful too, loving and kind and absolutely loves her son luckily she likes me too.

[Mumoblue]

Yeah maybe I’ll be a MIL one day but if my son ever told me to not see my grandchild to punish his ex I’d give him a kick up the arse and then go see my grandkid.

She once complained that it seems like none of the DIL/ex-DIL’s like her, but she hasn’t grasped the common denominator.

[HyggeTygge]

My MIL is great. Really lovely and a great cook!

[DontBeCatty]

Mine is just average. She’s always behaved very well with me but I don’t like the way she tries to manipulate my husband. She is really old and from a different culture and was bought up in a traditional old fashioned way and it must have done her head in seeing how I raised my kids. However she did nothing but praise me, she would tell me I was beautiful, (I’m not) that I was lovely and slim (I’m not) that I’m a brilliant mother (maybe I am 😂) etc etc. she is also very religious but never mentioned the fact we had kids before we got married.
Unfortunately she does try to manipulate my husband and she has a traditional view about boys being worshipped and girls being told they look pretty. Which doesn’t really work with my girls or my boys.
I’m a brilliant MIL though.

[GingerScallop]

@pog100

These generalising comments are utterly ridiculous. MIL are mother's of sons, which if my dodgy maths is correct, is more than half of all mothers. Even allowing for the slightly awkward situation that the DIL/MIL relationship can be, you cannot truthfully say anything negative about them in general, or even a majority.
There are many mentions in these pages of lovely supportive MIL, just as you would expect.

So true. "Funnily" the 'all mothers in law are terrible' jibe has its roots in misogyny. Are all women the same? So what does she say? That it's a good idea for you to get a covid vaccine? We don't know so we can't judge her or join your hate-fest.

My mother in law is my mother. She's wonderful and I call her daily. She's kind, generous, intelligent, scientific, knowledgeable beyond belief, loving, supportive and honest. There are things am more open to her about than any other person incl my own wonderful mum. By your logic, if all MILs are the same then what a wonderful world!

Now for the goss, what does she say?

[amsadandconfused]

@pog100

These generalising comments are utterly ridiculous. MIL are mother's of sons, which if my dodgy maths is correct, is more than half of all mothers. Even allowing for the slightly awkward situation that the DIL/MIL relationship can be, you cannot truthfully say anything negative about them in general, or even a majority.
There are many mentions in these pages of lovely supportive MIL, just as you would expect.

Agree!

[tara66]

Why don't you get her brochures for the OU.

[ILoveHuskies]

The day I gave birth to mine and dh,s first daughter, before even noticing her new grandchild, My mil walked in the room and said to me, wow you've got a lot of weight to lose haven't you ?

I about died of mortification. It was over 12 years ago and I will still never understand what would possess someone to say that to a woman who's just given birth

She also blatantly prefers my SILs kids to my kids and treats them better, spends way more time with them and takes them on holiday and babysits constantly but never does the same for mine

On the flip side, my ex mil (mum of my first H) is one of my best friends. She is just amazing.

[ReadyforTakeOff]

MILs can be quite controlling and that's the issue. They think but they don't always know IME.

[PhoboPhobia]

Mine is lovely and supportive and has always been a cheerleader as it were for DH and I as parents.

My own mother in the other hand....

[Ohmybod]

My MIL is lovely. A bit of a worrier, occasionally annoying (she probs can say same about me) but comes from a good place. I do love her.

[JustDanceAddict]

Mine is a bitter racist!!
Even DH agrees.
She’s never been outwardly horrible to me, but she has no tact, no understanding of MH issues and isn’t very nice to be around.

[TommyShelby]

Mine is a manipulative, narcissistic alcoholic who has bullied her children. I keep me and my daughter as far away as I can.

[Fredstheteds]

I took her son...

[Purplecatshopaholic]

Mine was batshit. Never spoke to me again after her son cheated on me and left (after 25 years of marriage…)

[Parusmajor]

I struggle with my MIL but not because she is my MIL, because she is a frustrating person to be around and small doses are easier. Unfortunately she lives quite far away so likes to visit for days at a time but at least I get a break in-between! I find it odd having to suddenly live with someone I wouldn't normally chat to that much (if I met her at work etc) as everyone finds her hard work but hey ho, such is life! We muddle along.

[Briony123]

Mine is great: very intelligent, highly successful in her career, talented, interesting and fun. Kind to me always, very supportive of all of us, full of energy and helpful around the house. I must have been a saint in a former life to deserve her!

[Frezia]

Mine is ok. Not helpful but most importantly she's not interfering either. She does love her grandchildren and has always been nice to me. She is quite annoying at times when she's here but it's mostly cultural/generational differences which is my problem really, not hers. As long as my expectations are low it's all good. I have two sons so could be a double MIL one day. I shudder to think what monster I might be.