Text Stalker - what to do?

[Janos]

Some folks may or may not recall I made a post in that weird guy thread about 'forty second rule' man.

Well, I met this man once for coffee, 4 weeks ago for about half an hour. I have had no contact with him apart from that.

Since then I have had texts from him at least 3-4 times a week (often more). It sounds almost silly to complain as they are fairly inoccuous 'How are you, would you like to meet up for a drink'.

I have given no encouragement and not answered any. Now he has stepped things up (phoning - I do not answer). The previous two nights I have been woken at stupid o clock in the morning by texts from this bloke asking to meet up then and there. As I;m on my own with a little boy I found this a bit creepy.

I started off feeling these were an irritation and he would stop. But they haven't, if anything it's got worse and it's all starting to feel a bit sinister.

My friend suggested texting him to say 'Please leave me alone'. I'm worried this contact might encourage him. What should I do?

Thanks for any advice.

Janos - I hope you don't hear any more from him, although he obviously isn't the type to give up. What about getting a man to answer if he rings you? If it were me I would just change my number, and I never leave my phone on at night.

Good luck.

I have thought about that foofi.

Hopefully my comment about the police will have
got through. I'll see.

hmm, you're not in touch though - he just persistently texts you.

you've done the right thing.

I did think at first that he could just be incredibly thick-skinned, but now I do see how odd he sounds!

I really hope he steers clear.

God, so do I.

He is odd Dior...just not quite right in the head I think.

If I do hear ANYTHING from him again I will contact the police. At first I just felt annoyed, then got more and more worried by it and I'm glad people can see why.

"hmm, you're not in touch though - he just persistently texts you."

Well, exactly warthog.

Yes, remaining in touch requires the consent of both parties!

Has he been in contact again so far?
hope you are ok

Janos, if he tries again, ignore. Totally. He wants a reaction, don't give him it, and he will give up eventually. Sounds like his mother rejected him as a child and he wants a fight with her about it. which of course means you.
Does he know where you live?

Hope that made sense! Just a pattern with stalkers ime...reenacting a deeper issue. Not your problem.

Thanks you lot!

I have not had any contact from him at all since the final message. If there is ANY contact AT ALL then I WILL be going to the police.

Also, he doesn't know where I live.

I'm still utterly that he doesn't/didn't comprehend how inappropiate his behaviour was.

Oh and I will be getting a copy of that Gavin De Becker book!

Still silent?

None so far Dior....I hope it stays that way.

And thank you for asking BTW.

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Hope he stays away Janos: he obviously is more than just slow on the uptake. Save any further texts and emails and if there are any more, contact your local police station: I think it's correct to say that the stalking/harassment law allows the plods to become involved after 2 incidents of unwanted contact (ie anyone who makes 2 more attempts after being told clearly to stop making contact.)