Online dating - help....

[TraciB]

Whats peoples experiences, mine so far are all negative, does it get any better, men wanting sex, married men wanting sex, men wanting to talk dirty and send rude photos, men wanting to talk and never meet, dates, ghosting... does it get any better than this? i 'm starting to feel bad about myself ...i'm disheartened help...

@megustalacerveza Possibly, but this thread is about experiences and success rates in OLD, not the nature and quality of heterosexual relationships or the societal narratives that drive them. The things you’re saying are applicable to all relationships and not particularly relevant to anything I’ve said or the OP’s question.

And, again, if you think everything I’ve said is glaringly obvious stuff that women are automatically doing, you and I have not been reading the same posts on this forum.

Thought your advice was good @Saysama👍

@Misty84 Thank you. I was trying to be helpful!

Thanks @megustalacerveza

I'll definitely be giving it some time to settle before considering dating of any kind. It was a fairly amicable split but at the moment I can't imagine ever wanting to live with a man again or remarry.

Saysama
I agree with your post and IF I hit tinder again in 2022 I’ll do it differently

Yes OLD can be brutal but there will be some diamond there

So I've been using dating apps for 2 years and let's just say it's been an eye opener after not really doing the whole dating thing previously. Im 36 with two teenagers so a lot more flexible and in no rush for anything and just made it a way of meeting new people, if it didn't work I'd just move on. Three weeks ago matched with someone who is everything im looking for and more and has been the easiest thing ever, we set our first date within the first few messages and have seen eachother more than I have any other matches in such a short period! He'll be having his kids for two weeks over Christmas and we're both looking forward to seeing how this continues after the new year.
It's all about making it a fun experience and enjoying the moment and even if it doesnt work out, you always learn something from the experience.

I for one have became a lot more confident in myself and what I was looking for after each experience and I've finally found someone I haven't questioned myself over.

I think you might be better off joining some meetup groups or or volunteer work to meet people.

OLD is like reaching around in the toilet to find the ring that slipped off your finger.