My dad was never really around growing up but when I was 21 he suffered from a heart attack and stroke and almost died, since then we have had more of a relationship although I don’t see him often we speak on the phone regularly, I don’t see him often due to distance and the fact I don’t drive.
Anyway I have a sister who is not his biological daughter but she calls him dad (just for context my mum and dad never lived together and wasn’t married they broke up before I was born so he was never a step dad but my sister started calling him dad and my mum asked him if it was ok and he said yes.) just giving some back ground info, 2 years ago my sister done something really horrible to me and we had a huge falling out which included her coming to my house and threatening to beat me up in front of my children, what she done was so bad that I will never speak to her again and none of the rest of the family speak to her because of it , they don’t not speak to her because of me it’s because she also tried to involve them in on it. We haven’t had the greatest relationship and she always seemed to dislike me when we was children (she use to beat me up a lot when we was younger) but I assumed things had changed now that we had grown up and had children etc, but clearly not. Anyway what she done was unforgivable, despite this my dad has chosen to continue to have a relationship with her which is fine I don’t expect him not to, however he doesn’t respect why I do not speak to her, he regularly brings her up in conversation, I’ve not spoken to her for 2 years, I change the conversation anytime he mentions, but what has bothered me is recently he offered me a new phone, I didn’t ask for the phone to be clear he said he had got a new one and asked me I wanted his, I said yes it would come in handy, he told me he would post it to me (my uncle visits him and he said one day when he is up there he will send him to the post office with it) all fine or so I though, a few days later he calls me to say he’s actually given the phone to my sister and she will post it through my letter box!
Now I was shocked he would do that considering the situation, he told Me that she was only going to post it and wouldn’t knock, I was still unhappy as I don’t want her having an excuse to come to my house. Anyway the next day she knocks on my door at 10pm!!! I of course didn’t answer. I was really unhappy so I called him asking him why he thought it was ok to send her round to my house and to let him know she did knock and he said “well she hasn’t done anything to me” he seems to completely disregard what she has done, would you be annoyed at this? I’m considering cutting contact with him as I can’t trust him, anything I tell him he goes back and tells her, I’ve already had to be careful what I say to him as I know he repeats it back to her but him sending her round to my house feels like the final straw, considering the last time she came round my house was to beat me up.