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WafflesOrIceCream · 2021-11-30T22:05:33+00:00

Just that really... For me it was the way my OH was there for me when I was having some problems. What did it for you??

RaisedByPangolins · 08/12/2021 14:22

These are all so lovely - we hear so many horror stories on MN about relationships that it’s heartening to read about the ones that go right!

Hoping that those who haven’t yet found their happy ending can do. I know relationships aren’t the be all and end all, but meeting someone who makes you smile when you think of them, even when you’re just doing a supermarket shop, is the best.

My DP has some little tricks that o didn’t even know I needed! When I’m sad he’ll hug me right and rock me like a baby. It always makes me cry but feels so good! He also squeezes out the “bad air” which involves a kind of bear hug as I exhale. And I always thought I couldn’t bear having my feet touched, but he gives lovely foot rubs that are firm and not tickly!

RaisedByPangolins · 08/12/2021 14:22

Hug me tight*

Peanutmnm · 08/12/2021 14:26

I don't know! Some sort of magic chemistry. I just felt like he was right for me, the other side of me, like I already knew him from the moment we met. It was mind-blowing. Funny thing is that everything I believed about him in this first 5 minutes were exactly right about his personality, motivations, trustworthyness, character. How could I have known that stuff???

Iveputmyselfonthenaughtystep · 08/12/2021 18:02

@Justanothernametoday

What a lovely thread

I had a first date on Sunday and it was like being hit by lightning, I've not stopped smiling since

After a traumatic divorce and a short term relationship with a master in head-fuckery I (thought I) was only looking for something casual but I have been floored by this man.

I've been telling myself that this is ridiculous but reading so many lovely posts here makes me think it's possible that this might be it....

This was exactly me 22 months ago. I still feel like that and I'm so happy I ignored the logic that told me it was too soon. I adore him

lostintranslation78 · 08/12/2021 21:12

How wonderful is this thread eh? !!!
Thanks for starting it op.
x

GroovesintheHeart · 08/12/2021 21:42

He’s just rock solid. Totally unshakable and I find that incredibly calming & makes me feel very safe and secure.

Dontgetyerknicksinatwist · 08/12/2021 21:45

His kindness. I’ve never met anyone as kind and gentle as him. He’s never said a horrid word about anyone.

EsmeGythaMagrat · 08/12/2021 21:48

His kindness. He’s the kindest person I’ve ever known and I’m a better person for being with him.
He’s a wonderful and gentle father to our son, he absolutely worships me and always makes me feel beautiful (when I’m usually looking like a bag of spanners).
He lights up my world and whatever I lack, he gives me. I thank my lucky stars everyday that he’s mine.

RedBonnet · 09/12/2021 08:54

I knew him from a hobby forum online, never met, never flirted and we lived hundreds of miles apart. I was offered a very good job about 50 miles from him. The company paid for me to stay in a hotel and check out houses. When I got there he phoned to say he'd been round all the estate agents and got me a bunch of houses to look at! (Not appointments, just the paper details, this was pre smart phones). He rang to tell me, first time we'd spoken, and he has the most delicious voice

Justanothernametoday · 09/12/2021 09:11

@Iveputmyselfonthenaughtystep

How wonderful, I'm so pleased for you.

We had date 2 last night and still WOW!

hivemindneeded · 09/12/2021 09:49

@Peanutmnm

I don't know! Some sort of magic chemistry. I just felt like he was right for me, the other side of me, like I already knew him from the moment we met. It was mind-blowing. Funny thing is that everything I believed about him in this first 5 minutes were exactly right about his personality, motivations, trustworthyness, character. How could I have known that stuff???

I understand this. I had a really unnerving moment about 15 minutes after I first met DH. I was watching him chat animatedly to our mutual mate who introduced us and I thought with an absolute calmness: I could marry him. I had a reputation for being a bit flippant with men and never wanting to be tied down. But he felt just right. He was this sweet, gentle giant with a brilliant mind and although he had the kind of job that is normally taken by arrogant tossers there was something utterly innocent about him. Still is. He gets this wild deer look of utter puzzlement when people are manipulative.

Iveputmyselfonthenaughtystep · 09/12/2021 10:12

We met on a dating app and in the week before we were able to meet we spent about 100 hours talking on phone and video. I already knew we got 9n, had major things in common like values and sense of humour and then I met him. My god, I was sooooo nervous I couldn't stop shaking but he put me at ease and I just felt like I'd known him forever. There was just that sense of comfort you get in a long term relationship and honestly that freaked me out more than anything else because I was looking for fun, not forever. He would be the first to admit that he's not conventionally handsome, he's got a tummy on him and maybe some women wouldn't look twice at his face, but I find him so attractive, he has the most beautiful eyes and I just love looking at him.
We still lose whole hours gazing at each other like puppies. It's absurd.

He's also turned out to be wonderfully supportive. Given me the strength to push myself to achieve a whole bunch of things I wouldn't have thought possible really. I feel very lucky to have met him.

Justanothernametoday · 09/12/2021 13:03

@Iveputmyselfonthenaughtystep

We met on a dating app and in the week before we were able to meet we spent about 100 hours talking on phone and video. I already knew we got 9n, had major things in common like values and sense of humour and then I met him. My god, I was sooooo nervous I couldn't stop shaking but he put me at ease and I just felt like I'd known him forever. There was just that sense of comfort you get in a long term relationship and honestly that freaked me out more than anything else because I was looking for fun, not forever. He would be the first to admit that he's not conventionally handsome, he's got a tummy on him and maybe some women wouldn't look twice at his face, but I find him so attractive, he has the most beautiful eyes and I just love looking at him. We still lose whole hours gazing at each other like puppies. It's absurd.

He's also turned out to be wonderfully supportive. Given me the strength to push myself to achieve a whole bunch of things I wouldn't have thought possible really. I feel very lucky to have met him.

How lovely ☺️

timestheyarechanging · 09/12/2021 23:01

First one - my exH we were 18 out clubbing in London, he was a friend of a friend and I was SO attracted to him dispute being with another guy. Finished with the guy the next day, told our mutual friend I fancied exH who told him. ExH called me and we met at a club on the Thursday. Told my friend that night that I'd met my husband. There was just so much chemistry. He was gorgeous, kind, intelligent, into the same things as me. Great family. We travelled the world for 4 years. We split 10 years ago because we became like brother and sister. We were together 22 years and have two amazing adult kids and co parent perfectly. We are still friends and I'm friends with his partner, and him with mine.
Now my current partner - again chemistry from the moment we met (through mutual friends) - we have a lot of shared history, he makes me happy, feel wanted, feel loved and we both have the same outlook and wants for the future. First date we sat up till 3am talking then, in the morning, went to Asda to do a food shop! I fell in love with him very soon, and him me. It just felt right. I'm very grateful. He and my exH are friends now, my adult kids completely accept him. We are all having Christmas together. I feel very grateful.

SpringCrocus · 10/12/2021 02:36

Initial chemistry, kindness, friendship (only) for a year, after my divorce. Financial help offers to get me out of temporary problem with ex. Kindness and patience.
Pity it still turned out to be not reliable 40 years on, but at the time it was much appreciated

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WafflesOrIceCream · 11/12/2021 22:36

How lovely!🥰

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Normando91 · 11/12/2021 23:45

We met at the start of the first lockdown. Our first date was over FaceTime. He text me to say wear something fancy and when I went on the call, he’d dressed in a shirt, trousers and nice shoes and told me to position the phone so it looked like we were sitting across the table from one another. We spoke for 6 hours that night and at no point did the conversation slow. We spent the next 6 weeks doing the same and each time made it look like we were sitting across from each other at a table.

I just thought it was really sweet ☺️