What made you fall in love with your partner?

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Just that really...

For me it was the way my OH was there for me when I was having some problems.

What did it for you??

He gets me. I’m neurodiverse which in practice means I’m weird and chaotic and messy, and he is the same sort of weird as me but he smooths off all the rough edges. Plus he brings me food when I forget to eat and looks after me when I’m ill. I don’t have to hide any of me from him, which has never happened before.

@RaisedByPangolins very moving - so wonderful you found each other.

So lovely to read these!

He made me laugh until I cried.

Even now on days when he’s being a prick he still makes me unbelievably happy every single day.

We where introduced by a mutual friend. I was 36 and he was standing outside the cafe we had arranged to meet. I just looked at him and though “where have you been?” Together 20 yea.he drives me mad at times but we are soulmates.

When I realised just how comfortable we are with each other. No shame, no trying to hide anything or pressure to put on our best face. His scent, touch, everything feels so familiar and even though we've only seen each other a short time it feels like we've known each other a lifetime.

On our first date, it just totally wasn't awkward, we had tonnes of things to talk about and such a connection. 8 years later we still have things to talk about.

I also like his self confidence (he's not cocky, just self assured) and the way he holds himself when he walks.

Plus his tummy, I have a thing for men's tummies.

Great thread! It serves to remind us of the important things and reflect on how fortunate we are.
Mine are...
On our first date it was just easy.
We chatted , laughed and were immediately comfortable with each other.
We lost direction in his car and he was so relaxed and easygoing about it.
I was nervous as my ex would have started shouting and cursing and generally destroyed the mood. That's what I was used to... walking on egg shells trying to predict the next mood.
He spoke so highly about his family and simply explained that he and his exw fell out of love ... both at fault . No drama .
He has a gorgeous sexy accent and I love his humour. I am very attracted to him.
I love his quirkiness too... stopping point blank in the middle of the road to admire and swoon over a falcon mid conversation about something totally unrelated .
When we started to see each other at weekends.. he had a towel and toiletries ready for me, electric blanket on as I love one, dinner on the table whe I arrived and all my favourite foods and drinks there. He still does this two years on.
My sexual pleasure comes first when we engage and I am very generous in return. The first time he kissed me properly( affection less marriage for ten years) I was just frozen.I wanted more and he opened the floodgates of years of affection and sexual repression. It was magic !
I know exactly where I stand and with him and him me . No games or psychological shit. We prioritise each other but understand that our kids come first. Both divorced.
We are equal and the effort is equal.
We won't live together for years if still together and we are both on the same page about that.
Even when he goes off into mansplaining mode at times and I'm fit to kill him, he still makes me smile.
He was my first and last date after a toxic marriage and sometimes I feel like the angels were smiling down on me as a reward for years of low level abuse and mindfuckery.
He was very anxious for the first six months . He had been in a relationship after his divorce where he was clearly afraid to say the wrong thing for fear of being shouted/ ignored for days or on one occasion, hit. He is a soft soul but it took him quite a while to be 100% himself . It's been bliss and long may it continue hopefully .

His kindness. The fact we had a scary amount of things in common. His humour. He is also the best looking man I've ever seen, which helps.

Wow!I really enjoyed reading these!We all have those days when we get mad with our partner and well sometimes thinking about what made us love them in the first place helps us calm down.(Sometimes anyway!😂)

Met at work,my DM was dying,his D had just died.I was married (to someone else!) Gave me a shoulder to cry on. Sense of humour, always said he laughed me into bed. That was nearly 33 years ago

His kindness, the way he doesn't have an ego (other than with his work which he's amazing at). He's anti racist and anti mysogynistic - most of his friends are female. He really really gets the mental load women have to carry. He's a safe haven and a total animal in bed at the same time. I can sit there in my jammies with hairy legs and jolene on my top lip and he thinks I'm a goddess. He will always dance with me wherever we are even if its a shop and my fave song comes on. I adore him.

My exH was a right wing arrogant egotistical closet gay who broke me.

I’d liked him for a long time, finally we were both single at the same time. After our first date I had to go away for a couple of weeks and ended up with a medial condition which made me look funny. I came back to see him and he was so caring and lovely about it. Totally took it in his stride.

@Maassi - love your post, but especially the dancing!

We had been friends for years and had started seeing each other but it was a bit 'odd'. I think we were both holding back because we didn't want to risk spoiling the friendship. Then someone did some work on my house and did a shit job. Dp was 3 weeks post-covid, still struggling to do much, still not back at work. He'd seen the crap job and turned up at 9am the next morning, having been to suppliers to pick up all the stuff needed, and spent 5 days fixing it properly. When he'd finished it, we stood looking at it with his arms around me and I felt so cared for and safe.

I just felt I could be myself with him - that he accepted and liked me just as I am. It was easy, natural, unforced, it felt like I'd met someone I already knew.

The relationship I had just before him had been such fucking hard work and had made me so miserable and then along came this guy who was just nice and kind and generous and who got me and made me laugh and was interested in the same things I was.

It made me realise that when a relationship is right, it's easy, because you just want to do stuff together and be together and you can overcome just about any obstacle - and we've had plenty of those - but we're a team, so we figured it out.

His calm kindness. I'd been previously married to a man who was constantly angry, on a short fuse all the time and an appalling, selfish father. DH has been the most amazing step-dad and his relationship with (now almost-adult) ds still makes my heart melt. Plus, he's affectionate, tactile, thoughtful and makes me laugh every single day.

I mean obviously he also drives me up the bloody wall at times but fundamentally I just really, really like him!.

He is so calm and so kind. I feel so safe around him, so cared for and looked-after. He is the most gentle, relaxing soul I've ever been in the company of.

Yet we also have mind-blowing sex, laughter until our tummies hurt, and adenvetures that make me feel 16 again!

Shallow as hell but his face. Met in school at 16 tbf he turned out to have an even better personality, win win. If i couldn't see his face then his kindness to animals, kids and other people would have floored me anyway.

Great sex and we can fall about laughing all the time....sometimes I am crying with laughter and cant come up for air. He has the same sense of humour as me thankfully!

Initially it was the fact we had insane chemistry and the sex was incredible. The first time I clapped eyes on him I had that lightning bolt, gut punch feeling. Still fancy the arse off him now.

But what I really love about him is his kindness. He is kind even when people don’t deserve it. When he doesn’t need to be. When it means going out of his way. He’s not a pushover though, and he does what he thinks is right even in the face of strong pressure. He has no inflated ego. He is respectful to everyone and since he’s been working from home the last few years I’ve been so proud to hear how he manages his teams at work. He’s supportive, encouraging, fair, not afraid of someone junior having a better idea than him. The exact opposite of every male boss I’ve ever had.

Now we’ve got kids, I love him even more for being the dad they deserve. Both DH and I have got shit dads and he has made it his life’s mission to be the very best he can for our children. They will never have to feel the way that both of us have felt. He’s present and involved in every aspect of their lives and even though I’ve spent some time as a SAHM on and off, he’s never allowed himself to fall into the trap of being the secondary parent.

A lot of this shouldn’t really be praiseworthy I suppose because it’s just being a decent human being, but all these things are why I love him.

I properly met him at a funeral, a very tragic funeral, of a family member. He was chatty, kind and made me smile (something I never expected I could do that day) and even gave me his handkerchief when I cried ❤

Oh and when he holds me, all is well 😊

What a lovely thread

I had a first date on Sunday and it was like being hit by lightning, I've not stopped smiling since

After a traumatic divorce and a short term relationship with a master in head-fuckery I (thought I) was only looking for something casual but I have been floored by this man.

I've been telling myself that this is ridiculous but reading so many lovely posts here makes me think it's possible that this might be it....

Two things.

First was on an early date he sang me a funny song he'd made up and translated into an ancient language we both happened to have studied. I knew then I didn't have to hide my inner geek from him - we could blissfully babble on together about stuff that bores or mystifies most people.

And second, soon after we got together I cancelled a date as I had come down with a horrible head cold. He persuaded me to come over to his house and I went though I desperately wanted to go home. When I got there, a bath was already run, home made soup was bubbling on the stove and he tucked me up in bed and said, 'Sleep tight'. No one had ever taken such good care of me in my life before.

Also, when we met he had an incredibly glamorous high powered job and I was working as a waitress in a greasy spoon and he didn't care at all.

His kind eyes. I knew he would always look after me and love me more than I loved him. We've been married over 30 years and he's won me round - I definitely picked the right one, even if I didn't know it at the time I do now. He is a lovely, lovely, kind man who would do anything for me, our kids and anyone else for that matter.