Beginning to think there's something wrong with my vagina

[helloitsme3]

This isn't a joke and a serious worry.

My last partner stopped orgasming when having sex with me about 5 years before the end of the relationship. I tried not to take it personally as I thought he must have a physical or mental issue blocking this as he couldn't cum from anything I did. He was prescribed Viagra and this worked a couple of times but then stopped working. He didn't want to try anymore and the relationship became sexless. We were in our mid to late 20s.

I've started seeing someone new and... he can't cum either. It feels a bit embarrassing ending sex just because we've got bored and he can't orgasm with me.

I'm wondering if maybe there is something wrong with me inside. I don't want to see the dr yet as I've never heard of this before and they may think I'm on another planet.

I haven't had children and only a couple of sexual partners before.

Maybe PIED should be PISD as seems to cover a range is issues with partnered sex, not just ED

Traditional factors that once explained men’s sexual difficulties appear insufficient to account for the sharp rise in erectile dysfunction, delayed ejaculation, decreased sexual satisfaction, and diminished libido during partnered sex in men under 40.

The is a man who just got caught making out with Tractors.
So no the is nothing wrong with your body.
It's the partners not you.
Porn is probably at the bottom of this.
If your actually really into him , tell him your going to do a day in the bedroom where your in charge and then just do foreplay for 12 hours till he is so worked up he can't go longer without begging.
Making out without getting undressed really is underrated.

@Pinkbucket. I think a lot of men fail to understand that many women really devalue their partners mentally if they find they are constantly looking at hard core porn- some don’t- but many do, particularly women over 40 who haven’t grown up with it being ‘the norm’ - whether it’s right or wrong for many it just feels utterly sleazy and that’s leaving out the ethics factor too. . It’s a factual thing that if men constantly get off to ‘images’ it rewires the brain neural pathways to associate sex with visual cues , doesn’t cause some men a problem but it seems it does with lots of men- they lose their imagination/ mental wank bank . They also get used to the sensation of a particular grip. Young men even are having these issues far more and there is no other obvious explanation apart from the fact they have grown up with a never ending variety of visual porn

It's not you OP.

@HereticFanjo

Nope very much a woman last time I checked. But of course no woman could possibly disagree that wanking to porn causes problems orgasming. The only possible answer is it’s a man in disguise!😭

@Pinkbucket

No one is in a tizzy but you. You have a pet cause (anti porn) so you are certain that it must be the cause of OP’s problems and call anyone who doesn’t agree a “troll”. You literally tell me about a study which claims porn makes men better lovers which is supposed to prove it causes ED, then you backtrack and search out another study which says the opposite.

OP asked for serious advice, on her end it would be best to rule out that nothing is wrong (excessive dryness etc. or abnormally small/tight because she can not possibly know for sure unless she thinks about it.

I'm my 50s and still learning.
Conversation over dinner tonight will be have you heard of "death grip" still,it beats "how was your day darling."

@Alwayscheerful

I'm my 50s and still learning. Conversation over dinner tonight will be have you heard of "death grip" still,it beats "how was your day darling."

I remember when I first heard the phrase I thought it was something to do with a lack of blood supply to the brain (like, literal death grip).

I suppose in a way it is lack of blood supply to the brain though!

[quote TarasCrazyTiara]@HereticFanjo

Nope very much a woman last time I checked. But of course no woman could possibly disagree that wanking to porn causes problems orgasming. The only possible answer is it’s a man in disguise!😭[/quote]
Which do you think can grip harder, a vagina or a man's hand?

[quote TarasCrazyTiara]@HereticFanjo

Nope very much a woman last time I checked. But of course no woman could possibly disagree that wanking to porn causes problems orgasming. The only possible answer is it’s a man in disguise!😭[/quote]
If you're actually a woman the internalised misogyny you live with is extreme, as evidenced across multiple posts and threads. Good luck living in your head.

Some women don’t like their partners watching porn so they make up this stuff I guess. How can you seriously believe men jacking it to porn will cause erectile dysfunction? That makes no sense.
If you masturbate are you still able to have sex? Of course. Why do you think it would be different for them?🤷🏼‍♀️

@TarasCrazyTiara

Well you believe you then, as clearly your partner is either wanking one out to porn every night or you're a bloke. And women orgasming is very different. The fact you've compared the 2 shows you are either pretty thick or very misinformed.

Back in the actual real world though, It is highly highly likely OP that this IS porn related.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with your vagina. If you can feel them inside you, they can feel you just fine.

There is actually a female equivalent to death grip - I was single when the rampant rabbit vibrator launched and after getting into the "rabbit habit" for a few months I certainly found it much more difficult to orgasm with my hand or with a partner! Binned the rabbit and everything went back to normal

@TheOccupier

But why would a man jacking off to porn hold his penis as hard as he possibly could? Men have always masturbated, why would they not get “death grip” from non porn masturbation? Why hold it differently because of porn?

It makes no sense at all when you think about it.

[quote TarasCrazyTiara]@TheOccupier

But why would a man jacking off to porn hold his penis as hard as he possibly could? Men have always masturbated, why would they not get “death grip” from non porn masturbation? Why hold it differently because of porn?

It makes no sense at all when you think about it.[/quote]
It's related to desensitization @TarasCrazyTiara

Both physical and mental.

It's a bit like needing that extra hit over time. He used to get aroused just watching a man and a woman have sex, then it had to be threesomes, then it has to be anal sex, and so on.

@Bookworm20

I don’t know for sure if my DH watches porn or not but I assume he does and doesn’t tell me. And I don’t want to or try to find out or catch him at it either.

I know you think that most women feel like you do but I don’t think so, your just in a passionate minority. Most of us don’t want to watch a bunch of porn with our partners but also aren’t horrified by them ever watching it privately.

The point is if men masturbating without porn doesn’t cause ED, then why would they suddenly hold their willies in this king fu death grip that you claim they use when wacking it to porn?🤷🏼‍♀️

You need to have sex with more people. I suspect t your vagina is working just beautifully and the issue you’re having is with the cocks.

@Signalstation

How is it physical though? Are you saying they actually hold their penises harder when masturbating to porn? I don’t buy that it sounds crazy. Why on earth would they?

This is made up by women who are like the Temperance movement for porno or something.

@Signalstation

And also how can you know it’s not her? Maybe she does have a problem she isn’t aware of, it’s worth thinking about and there’s nothing wrong with trying to get to the bottom (or fanny🥳) of it.

[quote TarasCrazyTiara]@Signalstation

How is it physical though? Are you saying they actually hold their penises harder when masturbating to porn? I don’t buy that it sounds crazy. Why on earth would they?

This is made up by women who are like the Temperance movement for porno or something.[/quote]
I think temperance is actually quite apt.

Back in the day I liked watching porn movies occasionally. We'd watch them together and they were properly acted, with stories. I'm going back to the days when you had to rent them though or get them from the bloke down the pub.

There was never any anal sex in them.

A bit of temperance in the modern world of porn might not be a bad thing!

[quote TarasCrazyTiara]@Signalstation

And also how can you know it’s not her? Maybe she does have a problem she isn’t aware of, it’s worth thinking about and there’s nothing wrong with trying to get to the bottom (or fanny🥳) of it.[/quote]
That's easy enough to check yourself FGS.

@Signalstation

Yeah good luck with that then I’m sure it will be a wild success. And Pornos never had proper acting or proper story lines when they were on VHS and there was stuff like anal sex and other gross shit in them back then to.

@Signalstation

Not if she’s not aware of what is and isn’t usual. Don’t make the mistake of thinking OP has the same knowledge as you or try to shame her for not knowing. I’m trying to help her not battle against the mysterious illness of death grip which you say is sweeping the male species.

[quote TarasCrazyTiara]@Signalstation

Yeah good luck with that then I’m sure it will be a wild success. And Pornos never had proper acting or proper story lines when they were on VHS and there was stuff like anal sex and other gross shit in them back then to.[/quote]
I must go further back than you then hun.

[quote TarasCrazyTiara]@Signalstation

Not if she’s not aware of what is and isn’t usual. Don’t make the mistake of thinking OP has the same knowledge as you or try to shame her for not knowing. I’m trying to help her not battle against the mysterious illness of death grip which you say is sweeping the male species.[/quote]
Never said any of what you say but never mind.

Would not like to be too graphic on here but quite easy to check if you are worried about slackness for example.

[quote TarasCrazyTiara]@Outlyingtrout

“Expert opinion online”
Yeah, that says it all, you can literally find an online “expert” who will claim anything and everything.

Some women don’t like their partners watching porn so they make up this stuff I guess. How can you seriously believe men jacking it to porn will cause erectile dysfunction? That makes no sense.
If you masturbate are you still able to have sex? Of course. Why do you think it would be different for them?🤷🏼‍♀️[/quote]
As adults most of us are able to distinguish between different sources online and to assess their credibility. It appears from your comment that you aren't even aware there could be sources of varying levels of credibility.

It's not at all difficult to understand why porn addiction and compulsive masturbation would impact a man's ability to have a normal sex life with a partner. It has been explained on this thread already numerous times and there is a wealth of information online so I'm really not sure where the difficulty lies for you. It's a very simple thing.

At the end of the day, there are people here who clearly have some understanding and knowledge of the subject (and let's face it, common sense) and others who don't (you). It's entirely up to you whether you choose to remain ignorant or do some wider reading. Nobody here is responsible for educating you. What is abundantly obvious is that you are extremely misogynistic and therefore have a clear agenda.