Beginning to think there's something wrong with my vagina

[helloitsme3]

This isn't a joke and a serious worry.

My last partner stopped orgasming when having sex with me about 5 years before the end of the relationship. I tried not to take it personally as I thought he must have a physical or mental issue blocking this as he couldn't cum from anything I did. He was prescribed Viagra and this worked a couple of times but then stopped working. He didn't want to try anymore and the relationship became sexless. We were in our mid to late 20s.

I've started seeing someone new and... he can't cum either. It feels a bit embarrassing ending sex just because we've got bored and he can't orgasm with me.

I'm wondering if maybe there is something wrong with me inside. I don't want to see the dr yet as I've never heard of this before and they may think I'm on another planet.

I haven't had children and only a couple of sexual partners before.

This is so interesting -thanks OP! Had no idea this was a thing now as was with previous partner for 30 years so long before online porn and no erectile/ejaculation etc issues at all -he was still going strong when we last had sex snd he was aged 64.
He did however have problem when we first me but that was because of guilt as he was married to someone else and fear of failure as he thought I was more experienced than him as he had only ever had sex with his wife and I’d had loads of boyfriends.

And possibly also fear of pregnancy-could that be an issue?

In spite of the advice your getting here porn doesn’t cause ED so rule that out, it’s just anti porn crusaders pushing their agenda.
ED is cause by medical issues - this leads to the question, are they actually staying hard when they’re inside you? If not the problem os definetly on your end.

The other thing which is far more unlikely is that it could be you (don’t know why people are so quick to dismiss this), so from that point of view, first off do you get wet at all or are you very dry, because that could produce a more painful experience for them and they may not be able to get off. This is only relevant if they stay hard though.

But OP, if you do think it’s you, what do you think is wrong with your vagina? Maybe if you tell us someone could give a more practical answer.

It's 100% porn.
Taking themselves out of the gene pool.

@TarasCrazyTiara

In spite of the advice your getting here porn doesn’t cause ED so rule that out, it’s just anti porn crusaders pushing their agenda. ED is cause by medical issues - this leads to the question, are they actually staying hard when they’re inside you? If not the problem os definetly on your end.

The other thing which is far more unlikely is that it could be you (don’t know why people are so quick to dismiss this), so from that point of view, first off do you get wet at all or are you very dry, because that could produce a more painful experience for them and they may not be able to get off. This is only relevant if they stay hard though.

But OP, if you do think it’s you, what do you think is wrong with your vagina? Maybe if you tell us someone could give a more practical answer.

Porn doesn’t cause erectile dysfunction? Where do you get that information Pied is a real thing recognised by sex therapists . Many men are wanking themselves into Ed

Plenty of women have experienced it and been with partners who stopped using porn and were able to perform again too . I am one such woman

@Pinkbucket

Men wanking a lot doesn’t cause ED lol, nor does them watching naked women. That’s sounds like some “if you wank you’ll it’ll fall of” scare advice of some Karen from the 70’s.

[quote TarasCrazyTiara]@Pinkbucket

Men wanking a lot doesn’t cause ED lol, nor does them watching naked women. That’s sounds like some “if you wank you’ll it’ll fall of” scare advice of some Karen from the 70’s.[/quote]
This a widely recognised and increasingly common phenomenon. Lots of expert information is available online which hopefully OP will seek out for herself.

Also your previous assertion that "ED is caused by medical issues". Another load of nonsense. Lots of men are unable to achieve erection and/or orgasm for non-medical reasons (in addition to porn addiction, things like grief, entrenched ideas from childhood about sex being dirty or shameful etc). A sex therapist could probably list hundreds of potential non-medical causes.

You are very ignorant, wading in with such strongly worded opinions on something you clearly know nothing about. And it's disgusting that you are attempting to reinforce OP's fears by suggesting there's something wrong with her anatomy just so that you can try and be the "cool girl". You've also displayed your misogyny and ageism for all to see, which explains your agenda.

This will probably be deleted - but I’ve spotted an apologist on this thread who has in the last few days displayed their misogyny, victim blaming and cool girl status. Ignore.

The evidence the too much masturbation causes ED is not really backed up all that well
www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/324068#can-masturbation-cause-ed

But certainly lots of evidence that too much exposure to porn alters perception of normal sex and relationships, there is a really good TED talk about this subject, will try to dig out the link

[quote TarasCrazyTiara]@Pinkbucket

Men wanking a lot doesn’t cause ED lol, nor does them watching naked women. That’s sounds like some “if you wank you’ll it’ll fall of” scare advice of some Karen from the 70’s.[/quote]
Surely you don’t use mysogynistic terms like ‘Karen’
Are you aware of the research showing porn watching causes men to find their partners less attractive ?
It’s interesting that pages of women here talk about it , researchers have data and yet Tara in her tiara knows better

‘Kenrick, Gutierres, and Goldberg (1989; Study 2) demonstrated that men, but not women, in committed relationships exposed to erotic images of opposite-sex others reported lower ratings for their partner's sexual attractiveness (d = 0.91) and less love for their partner (d = 0.69) than men exposed to images of abstract art. This research has implications for understanding the possible effects of erotica on men in relationships, but has not been replicated. We conducted three preregistered, high-powered close replications, and meta-analyzed the effects of the original and replication studies. We did not find support for the original finding that exposure to attractive images of opposite-sex others affects males' ratings of their partners' sexual attractiveness or love for their partner.‘

‘ A 2015 study found that men who reported more time spent viewing pornography had greater sexual responsiveness to a partner in a laboratory setting. This suggests that pornography might help prime the brain or body for sex, potentially improving intercourse with a partner.’

By Tara I guess you know better huh

Ignore Tara OP, I can only assume she is a troll or really stupid as the evidence is plentiful that porn/too much wanking over porn can reduce performance in the bedroom. I say this as someone who has never had an issue with watching it/my partners watching it 😊

@Outlyingtrout

“Expert opinion online”
Yeah, that says it all, you can literally find an online “expert” who will claim anything and everything.

Some women don’t like their partners watching porn so they make up this stuff I guess. How can you seriously believe men jacking it to porn will cause erectile dysfunction? That makes no sense.
If you masturbate are you still able to have sex? Of course. Why do you think it would be different for them?🤷🏼‍♀️

@Pinkbucket

“A 2015 study study found that men who reported more time spent viewing pornography had greater sexual responsiveness to a partner in a laboratory setting. This suggest that pornography might help prime the brain or body for sex, potentially improving intercourse with a partner

By Tara I guess you know better huh”

You do realise this study is suggesting that men watching porn makes them better lovers, not proves they get ED?🤦🏼‍♀️
But Pink Bucket I guess you know better huh?

Tara I think you’re conflating two things here. The OP hasn’t said her partners have difficulty obtaining or maintaining an erection. She’s specifically said they cannot orgasm from penetrative sex. Which is totally likely to be as a result of conditioning themselves to only achieving an orgasm in certain, specific conditions. It’s a porn thing.

[quote TarasCrazyTiara]@Pinkbucket

“A 2015 study study found that men who reported more time spent viewing pornography had greater sexual responsiveness to a partner in a laboratory setting. This suggest that pornography might help prime the brain or body for sex, potentially improving intercourse with a partner

By Tara I guess you know better huh”

You do realise this study is suggesting that men watching porn makes them better lovers, not proves they get ED?🤦🏼‍♀️
But Pink Bucket I guess you know better huh?[/quote]
Yes it shows that the internet can and does have various contradictory reports
So why don’t you listen to women who’ve experienced it and educate yourself with the actual research
However , women who have experienced relationships like this

www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5039517/

Read the actual research Tara who knows best

@Pinkbucket

Which actual research? The research you directed me to that said porn made men better lovers who were more into their partners? Or the research your posting once you realised you were arguing against yourself?

Which is the “actual research”?

Wow , you think a good post is research
Follow simple directions … as … follows
Start here
www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5039517

Your ignorance is astounding

Tara is blatantly a male troll who doesn't like (amongst many things) women dating younger men. I'll leave you to fill in the mental gaps but here are some eye rolls for Tara 🙄🙄🙄

OP ignore the Tara I’m pretty sure she /he is a troll like others have said

Porn can definately be a cause as can several other factors . One things that is almost certainly not the issue , is your vagina

@HereticFanjo

Tara is blatantly a male troll who doesn't like (amongst many things) women dating younger men. I'll leave you to fill in the mental gaps but here are some eye rolls for Tara 🙄🙄🙄

For sure

It’s actually quite funny how some people get in a tizzy when the truth about porn and Ed is mentioned and the fact that no woman wants that guy

Anecdotal here but my ex did make a reference to having been exposed to porn at a young age (he meant 17/18) by men with whom he worked. The reference was made during one of the conversations we had after he admitted paying for sex. Mostly, initially, he obliquely blamed me for his behaviour but later it was like his sub-conscious was starting to search around for reasons as to why he did what he did.
When he referred to having been exposed to porn at a young age he was distressed.
He had previously had ED issues during our relationship which arrived suddenly, lasted for a while, and disappeared as quickly as they arrived.
He also reported a loss of sensitivity in the later years we were together.