Is this an unkind thing to say?

[CLED]

My boyfriend told me that he’d rate me a 5 out of 10 in looks. I’m upset by this. He thinks it’s fine and that I should be ok with this.

I don’t think I can move on from this. I’ve always been sensitive about my looks but now I feel like the ugliest person in the world.

I will also add that partially I’m asking on here because I do have Aspergers and have problems assessing what is normal and what isn’t.

Thanks for the replies.

Definitely said to make you feel 'grateful' he's with you. Ugh, horrible man. Tell him it's made you 10/10 certain he's an idiot and you're leaving him.

Oh and btw he's DEFINITELY not a 7

@CLED

I will also add that partially I’m asking on here because I do have Aspergers and have problems assessing what is normal and what isn’t.

Thanks for the replies.

You were right it is deeply unkind and unacceptable. You will meet someone much much better than him . X

Honestly, even if he'd rated you 10/10, the fact that he 'rates' people on their looks would make me dump him.

Deeply deeply unkind. But the good news is he's showed you want a horrible person he is so his opinion no longer matters. Xx

*what a horrible person he is even

@FangsForTheMemory

Honestly, even if he'd rated you 10/10, the fact that he 'rates' people on their looks would make me dump him.

This is a very good point

You should probably rate him a 2 for penis size.

Awful. Your bf should find you beautiful inside and out. Nothing less is worth bothering with. Its about love.

He's being unkind.

If he rated everyone 5/10 then that might make it a bit better, but putting himself & others above you shows he's trying to put you down a peg or two.

He's being unkind, you're too good for him. Move on and away from him let him go find a 7

He's a shit and he wants to put you down so that you think you can't get anyone else. For all his faults, my ex made me feel like the most desirable woman in the world to him. That's how a partner should make you feel.

@FangsForTheMemory

Honestly, even if he'd rated you 10/10, the fact that he 'rates' people on their looks would make me dump him.

Excellent point.

He's definitely trying to make you feel insecure and grateful to be with him. Therefore, he must be deeply insecure. This is manipulative and unkind behaviour. And don't believe a word!

This sounds to me like the beginning of abuse. It will get worse and end up with you’re lucky to have him as you’re only a 5, no one else with have you etc etc.

It’s all bullshit. Dump him and find someone who appreciates you and doesn’t do shitty things like rating you out of 10.

Start rating all your ex boyfriends for theor sexual prowess. Rate him a 2. Then act like that's totally fine.

Sounds like heavy handed negging.
It's abusive. Decent people don't rate other people's looks on a scale from 1 to 10.

This is abusive, especially as he knows you have Aspergers and so may doubt your own reaction. Dump him, you deserve better.

@CLED

I didn’t ask him no. However, I admit I did then get upset and make him rate a lot of other people - the majority of whom he rated higher than me. So actually that made me feel worse.

He rated himself a 7.

Bin him.

The fact that he would rate you in the first place, would make him an ex.

I have aspergers too, so I understand you asking but he's definitely making you feel worthless to big himself up. Its abusive to put your partner down and make them feel so low.
You need to leave him. He's not good for your MH.

Not normal. Not kind. I suspect he says other things. Get rid of him.

He’s rude and unkind. That makes him a 2/10 as boyfriend material. You deserve someone that makes you feel wonderful. Tell him you don’t want to be with someone who looks down on you and says unkind things, so you’re letting him go to find someone he thinks is on his level. Then go and find yourself someone who adores you.

You can do so much better than him OP. Trust me