Last weekend me and my partner of a year and a half had a huge row. The essence of this was I felt he was making minimal effort and saying he wanted a future together but not acting on that. I’d still not met his friends or family (they knew about me) and he’d not met mine despite being invited many times. He always had an excuse or reason. Trying to book anything together other than dinner was hard as he was non committal to plans together that involved more than a meal out, although we saw each other most days. Anyway it all blew up and I was upset, said I don’t feel he makes the effort to match his words and all he could say in response was he was struggling to juggle work, family and a relationship. He was crying and so my immediate response was to try and talk it over with him, asking if he was stressed, depressed, anxious etc. I asked what I could do to help, what he needed. He wouldn’t talk properly and was cold with me, as if he was annoyed I had raised any of these things I needed from him. He barely spoke. This went on for a few days, him being really off with me, not kissing me, brushing off hugs. I practically begged him not to let this go and to work on on it, told him I loved him and was there for him. Silence again. I eventually said if he didn’t want to talk about this then I needed to focus on my own future because I don’t understand what he’s doing to us but it wasn’t what I wanted. He said he loved me too and we ended the phone call and I’ve never heard from him since. I loved him so much. Not sure what I’m asking really, just so confused and sad.